I think I have a strange habit that's after becoming more pronounced since the start of self-isolation. I have friends and I live with another person but I feel alone. The habit I think I have is putting on a grumpy persona that just isn't fun to be around. I don't know why I do this but it happens when friends call for a chat across the front gate or a Zoom invite gets sent around.
I'm a positive, upbeat person but this persona is the opposite and feels exactly like when someone you know invites you to a party at the weekend but your gut reaction is to turn them down and say your busy, even though you've got no plans at all. You want to reach out and say 'yes, I'll go' but you just can't and now you've got this strange gloomy feeling in the pit of your stomach.
Does this ring a bell with anyone? I want to engage and have fun but why do I turn into a scolded toddler when I'm on a Zoom call with my friends?
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How long have you had Zoom on your phone/laptop/computer? Some people don't want to use certain types of apps because they never had to use them before. I have different types of apps that do video chatting. The issue for me is, I need to keep track of what time it is so I don't wake up someone or bother them during a certain meal time. I hope this helps with your question. Please feel free to keep asking us anything. We will try to answer your questions the best to our abilities.
That's great to hear, Hidden . Sorry for the delay in getting back to you. Is everything going well today?
I'm not sure if it's for the same reason automatic-pancake, but for me anything like that grates with me if I feel there's going to be an element of false jollity. I hate TV programs like Ant and Dec's Saturday takeaway, and even things like the Red Nose or Sport Relief charity events. It's not that I don't like people enjoying themselves, or think that Red Nose Day or Sports Relief are a bad idea, it's just that it's too much hullaballoo for me. I'm great with a one to one quiet conversation but if there are more people around and they want to jolly me along, I have the exact opposite reaction.
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Thanks Callendersgal, that makes a lot of sense to me. I guess I can appreciate the extra effort people are putting in to stay connected, maybe after some time it'll begin to feel more natural.
Yes, I understand that. For me, I feel that it's taking my time away from other things that I need to do - not that I can spend long doing them, but I don't like being put on the spot. I usually agree to give my time, and it spurs me on to get other things done before I go and enjoy myself.
The grumpy person you put on is just a habit. As you are aware of it, you should be able to change the habit (21 days to change a habit). You probably need to find a different persona to replace it with - your choice. It could be that you are mixing with other grumpy people. The advice has always been to "avoid the negs". Good luck, and stay safe.
Sounds like an underlying anger is trying to manifest itself. Ask yourself whats really bothering you. What is happening in your life that really upsets you and confront it. I often try to avoid dealing with a situation and facing reality.
i live alone and i've had 2 flare ups since i was hospitalised in january, i finished a course of antib's and steroids yesterday but all the time i was taking them i was grumpy and i felt so miserable i could hardly lift my head up and i couldn't hide it when speaking to family and friends which i usually can, we're living in unprecedented times and even tho we think we're fine it is affecting everyone and everything so perhaps be aware and think about what it's doing to us, best wishes stay well xx
There's a pretty informative article from the National Geographic titled 'Zoom Fatigue'. It resonates with me a lot.
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Living alone blues - Finally caught up with me.