I was shielding till August due to being on a high dose of steroids.
I am very anxious about going out and meeting people. still only meet friends and family in the open air.
I have 2 concerns
1. I have been invited to a Murder Mystery get together at my sisters which will include 8 other adults and a meal. I dont want to upset my sister by not going but am very anxious about being close to that many people in her house. There will be 6 children too. Although they will probably be in bed. Should I go or shouldnt I.?
2 What are peoples thoughts about eating out in restaurants now. which is another invite I have.
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Personally, unless an area is really well ventilated I don’t go. 8 adults in a room, no thanks. Have a look at this. There are lots of its type around in slightly different forms.
I agree with Snazzy. All the while we're taking steroids we have to be over cautious. Don't worry about upsetting anyone it's not their health that's at risk.
If it’s more than two households meeting indoors I think it’s still a no-no.
Most restaurants are up to speed Covid wise - but if you are in any doubt, then decline.
If friends and family are aware of your situation - then they’ll know why....
and to be honest the numbers are increasing at the moment so who knows what will be what in a few weeks. Downloaded today - gov.uk/guidance/meeting-peo...
Due to todays information from Mr Van Tam about increasing cases think I may decline the invite to Family get together. Possibly the meal at the restaurant too.
I MIGHT consider the restaurant meal - but there have been cases of CV spread in restaurants because of the air-flow from one table to another. I would go to our pizzeria - and eat outdoors (this is Italy), Not sure I'd be entirely happy inside - no-one except the waiter will be wearing a mask, it is a bit difficult to eat and drink with one on!!! Mind you - chance would be fine thing.
But the house-party? No, afraid not. Jonathon Van-Tam has warned today about young people passing on CV to their parents and grandparents - they may not be ill with CV, not even symptoms, but they can still pass it on. You sound to be saying there will be 10-12 adults present? That is 5 or 6 different households.
But on another thread - that many people (and I refuse to believe the children will stay out) is a lot of noise and "stuff". I would find that tiring anyway but it is likely to be even more of a strain after the months of blissful quiet due to lockdown.
I am watching Hnacock's statement in the House and I think have to add the guidance from the website, updated on the 2nd September:
"you can also meet in a group of 2 households (anyone in your support bubble counts as one household), in any location ‒ public or private, indoors or outdoors. This does not need to be the same household each time.
It remains the case ‒ even inside someone’s home ‒ that you should socially distance from anyone not in your household or bubble. Those who have been able to form a support bubble (which is those in single adult households) can continue to have close contact as if they live with the other people in their bubble. This should be exclusive and should not change. "
I'm far from sure the plans come under that guidance even now. And there is talk of them reducing the numbers again because of the increasing case numbers.
The rules have changed again, gatherings of more than six, from the 14th Sept. illegal anywhere in England. Local rules in some areas, including mine, are still, also very different/stronger.
I went to a restaurant on Sunday with family for my birthday...it was excellent...spaced tables etc......couldn't fault it.....and it also gives such a lift seeing eve ryone.......last too days...exhausted!!....too much excitement!!...😁
Wouldn't go in to others house though.....
Very difficult to make a decision. I have taken lunch today at a pub where we sat in the early autumn sunshine.
I have also dined in at a similar venue and took a risk. I would however err towards greater caution if our infection rate was higher than the
Minuscule level it is in our area.
We are all different and take different risks, which combined with other factors such as family desires etc influence our decisions.
I take each event on its merit and whilst today I have been out, I have just declined two similar events later in the month as the weather forecast and number of guests suggest we may be inside.
Just been listening to the news and any group larger than 6 is now illegal. Count me out of any largish get togethers anyway. I am happy to eat outside the restaurants but not inside.
The new government guidance says only gatherings of 6. Please don't be concerned with offending people by saying 'no'. If people don't understand that's their problem, not yours. High doses of steroids do make you very vulnerable and you must think of yourself.
I haven't been to a restaurant/cafe since lockdown.
I have been shielding from March until the present and have only meet up with my children and Grandchildren once, in August outside for my birthday all socially distanced, (very hard but necessary) but since the current rise in the rate we will just FaceTime. I would not meet indoors, it’s too high a risk for my peace of mind. It is difficult but you must do what is best for you, I’m sure they will understand.
After watching the 10pm news last night, i dont think you have to worry, the guide lines have all changed AGAIN !! Im in the same boat! So here we go again ! Good luck to all. Best wishes Viv x
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