Never again!

[Suet3942]

On Thursday we went to visit our daughter in Kent. She lives on an estate and her house is next to a steep ‘cliff’ covered in brambles and loads of dense foliage. Subsequently her garden gets brambles, nettles and baby trees growing in it. We worked on it all day. Felt exhausted. Instead of resting yesterday we decided to go to Lakeside shopping centre cos my husband wanted some new shoes (always a trauma). Walked around for 4 hours and did a Tesco shop on way home. Then I cleaned bathroom and changed the bed. After cooking a meal I was too exhausted to eat it. Today I feel so ill. Sometimes I wonder if my pmr has gone after having it for so long. Don’t think so!! 👞👞

[nevagivup]

You learn from experience not to overdo it like that. My OH is also a pain to go shopping with, so these days he goes on his own. The result is he never buys any new clothing! Put yourself first. Let the others do the brambles and nettles. You must accept that you have a long-term illness and look after your health. Nobody else will do it for you. Hope you rest today and feel better tomorrow.

[Suet3942 in reply to nevagivup]

Hi nevagivup. Felt I had to help. Our daughter works full time and is a single parent. My husband is 77 and is starting to feel his age. Usually I know my limitations. It’s so hot as well!!

Think you’ve got the right idea. If I told my OH he had to go clothes shopping on his own he just wouldn’t go. 😎😎

[Longtimer in reply to Suet3942]

I`m lying down after reading that....I`m exhausted!

[HeronNS in reply to Suet3942]

Men! 🙄🤣

(Members of this forum excluded of course)

[Daylily2000 in reply to Suet3942]

Wow, you really did overdo it, for sure. One suggestion I would offer is use an electric cart when shopping, if possible. ♥️

[Suet3942 in reply to Daylily2000]

Yes that would have been a good idea Daylily. 👜

[CT-5012]

OMG! When you over do something you really do it to the extreme don’t you? Any two would be enough to make me want to lie down. Hope you are feeling much better today. Can relate to shopping with OH definitely a no no. All good wishes.

[DorsetLady PMRGCAuk volunteer]

Hi,

Hard way to find out it’s still alive and kicking!!!

One day would have been enough, but adding in the shopping 🤦🏻‍♀️

Have a GOOD rest this weekend.

[Suet3942 in reply to DorsetLady]

Thank you DL. Words of wisdom as usual.

[PMRpro Ambassador]

Hmmm - makes me feel exhausted and ill just reading it!!!!! Any one activity would be enough!

Mercifully my OH takes about 10 minutes to find footwear (because I know where to take him, as cheap as possible) but other clothes are a totally different matter! He is very thin and finding such clothes these days for 65+ man isn't easy - drainpipe jeans are not his scene needless to say. I find lots of nice stuff - but they cost a fair bit here in Italy and that doesn't fit his Scrooge image...

[yogabonnie]

Wow. without PMR that day of yours would have EXHAUSTED ME!!! Now I order shoes online for my husband and if they don't fit we send them back! and try again. We have had good luck and good sales!! We sit and look at them on the computer until he sees the ones he wants. (he is a luddite and can't use the computer hence my involvement but so much better than trudging around stores after him or going to the dreaded Mall of America!)

[scats]

When we took on my parents' garden we took on nearly a acre of ground sourounded by poplar trees. With half acre of grass my husband thought 'lawn tractor!' and happily volenteered to cut it. What we actually have is half acre of poplar forest with some grass. In the current drought the grass looks dead but the 'baby tree's' are going strong, growing about 10 cm a week as they are still attached to the adult trees. It looks dreadful if we don't cut it and we would soon be incased in a forest of large trees. Tell your daughter to keep on top of it.

As for you, sounds like you need to lie down and possibly get your head examined!

[markbenjamin57]

Hi Sue

Glad you had a good and active weekend - even if you're paying for it now!

Only to say: with PMR, Pacing is All....(even when feeling relatively 'good'). But I'm sure you know that already. And, for some of Us Lot, easier said than done?

Best wishes and keep positive in the meantime. 'This, too, will Pass'

'Uncle' MB

[Suet3942 in reply to markbenjamin57]

Thank you ‘Uncle MB’

[Angiejnz]

Know the feeling, went berserk in the garden, full shop and 2 loads of washing. I kept telling myself I had to stop but I don't seem to listen to anyone, even me oh dear 🙉

[Rimmy in reply to Angiejnz]

Well as we all know Angie *SOMEBODY* has to do the washing .....

[Angiejnz in reply to Rimmy]

Yup one good day and I think I'm cured duh 🛌🤦 house smells nice though 👕👙👖

[Suet3942 in reply to Angiejnz]

Think it’s inbuilt with women. A man would just sit around feeling sorry for himself😇😇

[SheilasPMR]

I am exhausted just from reading that! Time for a whole heap of nothing at all..

[Suet3942 in reply to SheilasPMR]

Yes definitely. Did nothing yesterday

[Valnvaughan]

Tip: Do your clothes and shoe shopping on Internet. Try in comfort of home and send it back if you do not like it.

[Suet3942 in reply to Valnvaughan]

I do that Val but my husband likes to try on (about 20pairs)! shoes as he has a problem with his right foot. Luckily he doesn’t buy that many. Unlike his OH......👡👡

[PMRpro Ambassador in reply to Suet3942]

I'm not into shoes or handbags either and OH wears his shoes until they collapse (literally)!!!! So it isn't a frequent exercise luckily! But he always decides he needs something just before we go away so no opportunity to look quietly - always in a rush. Nor will he look during the sales "I don't need..." he wails - and when he DOES need, protests volubly about the price.

[Reethebeat]

Oh dear Suet, I feel for you. A bitter pill there that you have taken. I often go deaf now when husband needs help. Old age brings cunning. With this illness you really do have to put yourself first. Hope you feel better soon

[Suet3942]

Haha I should know by now. Had it long enough!

[Jeanieallergy]

Another tip: do your food shopping on the Internet as well... I find I save money as my OH doesn't get tempted to put extras in the trolley!

[Suet3942 in reply to Jeanieallergy]

While I can I do like to go to the supermarket. It’s not far. Xx

[Linny3]

Lucky you in even being able to do that much. I can't begin to do 1/18 of all of that.

[Suet3942 in reply to Linny3]

Hi Linny. I do feel well most days now. That’s why I sometimes mistakenly think the pmr has gone. X

[piglette in reply to Suet3942]

I keep thinking the PMR has gone but realised you cannot tell until you have been on zero pred for a few weeks.

[Linny3 in reply to Suet3942]

I know what you mean. It is the hardest thing to not over do on days we feel better. I am always making that mistake. For me, over doing is vacuuming a room.

[powerwalk]

Oh dear - I feel your pain!!! or should I say fatigue!! Went to Paul Simon and James Taylor on Friday night - had an absolute fabulous time - had to walk for about an hour and more to get a taxi after it - thought on Sat I wasn't too bad considering. WELL - that didn't last - hit real bad on Sundy and this morning!!! Will take forever to recover. But we just keep trying!!!!! Hope you feel better soon.

[Suet3942]

Thank you and you. 🙂