On Thursday we went to visit our daughter in Kent. She lives on an estate and her house is next to a steep ‘cliff’ covered in brambles and loads of dense foliage. Subsequently her garden gets brambles, nettles and baby trees growing in it. We worked on it all day. Felt exhausted. Instead of resting yesterday we decided to go to Lakeside shopping centre cos my husband wanted some new shoes (always a trauma). Walked around for 4 hours and did a Tesco shop on way home. Then I cleaned bathroom and changed the bed. After cooking a meal I was too exhausted to eat it. Today I feel so ill. Sometimes I wonder if my pmr has gone after having it for so long. Don’t think so!! 👞👞
Never again!: On Thursday we went to visit our... - PMRGCAuk
You learn from experience not to overdo it like that. My OH is also a pain to go shopping with, so these days he goes on his own. The result is he never buys any new clothing! Put yourself first. Let the others do the brambles and nettles. You must accept that you have a long-term illness and look after your health. Nobody else will do it for you. Hope you rest today and feel better tomorrow.
Hi nevagivup. Felt I had to help. Our daughter works full time and is a single parent. My husband is 77 and is starting to feel his age. Usually I know my limitations. It’s so hot as well!!
Think you’ve got the right idea. If I told my OH he had to go clothes shopping on his own he just wouldn’t go. 😎😎
Hmmm - makes me feel exhausted and ill just reading it!!!!! Any one activity would be enough!
Mercifully my OH takes about 10 minutes to find footwear (because I know where to take him, as cheap as possible) but other clothes are a totally different matter! He is very thin and finding such clothes these days for 65+ man isn't easy - drainpipe jeans are not his scene needless to say. I find lots of nice stuff - but they cost a fair bit here in Italy and that doesn't fit his Scrooge image...
Wow. without PMR that day of yours would have EXHAUSTED ME!!! Now I order shoes online for my husband and if they don't fit we send them back! and try again. We have had good luck and good sales!! We sit and look at them on the computer until he sees the ones he wants. (he is a luddite and can't use the computer hence my involvement but so much better than trudging around stores after him or going to the dreaded Mall of America!)
When we took on my parents' garden we took on nearly a acre of ground sourounded by poplar trees. With half acre of grass my husband thought 'lawn tractor!' and happily volenteered to cut it. What we actually have is half acre of poplar forest with some grass. In the current drought the grass looks dead but the 'baby tree's' are going strong, growing about 10 cm a week as they are still attached to the adult trees. It looks dreadful if we don't cut it and we would soon be incased in a forest of large trees. Tell your daughter to keep on top of it.
As for you, sounds like you need to lie down and possibly get your head examined!
Glad you had a good and active weekend - even if you're paying for it now!
Only to say: with PMR, Pacing is All....(even when feeling relatively 'good'). But I'm sure you know that already. And, for some of Us Lot, easier said than done?
Best wishes and keep positive in the meantime. 'This, too, will Pass'
I'm not into shoes or handbags either and OH wears his shoes until they collapse (literally)!!!! So it isn't a frequent exercise luckily! But he always decides he needs something just before we go away so no opportunity to look quietly - always in a rush. Nor will he look during the sales "I don't need..." he wails - and when he DOES need, protests volubly about the price.
Oh dear - I feel your pain!!! or should I say fatigue!! Went to Paul Simon and James Taylor on Friday night - had an absolute fabulous time - had to walk for about an hour and more to get a taxi after it - thought on Sat I wasn't too bad considering. WELL - that didn't last - hit real bad on Sundy and this morning!!! Will take forever to recover. But we just keep trying!!!!! Hope you feel better soon.