I watch this proramme for two reasons. I would love to be registered at any of those surgeries featured and I wait in anticipation to see if anyone presents with PMR to see diagnosis, treatment offered and the GP's knowledge on it. Also what was on offer for support.
Last night there was a couple on who were struggling to cope with the wife's disability (osteoarthriris) and the husband working full time. Very much similar to what we on this forum have deal with being either the carer or person needing care.
He was struggling at work because he had the extra work of looking after his wife. She felt she was causing all his stress low mood and anger issues due to being needy and asking him for help as she was housebound. The small things like going to the shop for bread when he came home could start an argument.
I know how fortunate I am to have a husband who was able to adapt to our situation. We use humour to defuse any bad feelings that may arise. Hence Parker was created. For 30 years I worked full time and looked after the kids and all things housekeeping.
Parker comes from a social background where this is how it is. None of the women in his family worked or had to drive.
I am originally from Manchester. All my family work all the kids work and all the women are fiercly independant and adaptable to change. It was a culture shock when I met everyone who only lived 100 miles away over the Penines as to how differently we lived. Mill v Miners towns.
This suited me as I am a bit of a control freak and like things done my way. I did not plan for anything to change or think for one minute I would need to be looked after. The onset of my PMR its contribution to my arthritis was rapid. All within 6 months.
Not everyone will have the resilience, mental capacity and strength to cope with the "Grumpy Sad Miserable Sorry I'm a Burden Whinging Why Me" personality that takes over on bad days.
So in conclusion I would like to celebrate all Parkers great and small, male or female. I invite you to share (or not) coping strategies you have for when you have days where you really need to vent.
Parker has racing pigeons, a large Loft for them at the bottom of tbe garden. He knows I cant get up there so its his sancturay till he regains his inner smiley calm personna. Usually by that time I have forgotten what I what on about and moved on. Now I am more mobile he is training me in Pigeon Husbandary. I will be scraping out, feeding up and providing general healthcare for them next summer to repay all the time and effort he put in to getting me back on my feet.
Not a great fan of stinky sky rats but small price to pay. Probably wont do it right. Bit like putting on a quilt cover? We will see how long it lasts. Most likely scenario is till I can drive again and run away shopping.