So I am realizing that PMR has completely overtaken my life and my husbands as well. So as I am looking for tools to handle this disease I realized I needed to fall back on what has worked for me before. For 18 years I have been a member of AlAnon and I am going to use the steps that have helped me deal with the disease of alcoholism help me manage the stress of my current condition. Step one says I am powerless over PMR and my life has become unmanageable (substituting PMR for alcohol) so I surrender and yes I am powerless . I accept and surrender and for right now that is enough.