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Baker12

So fed up now, so wish the pessery had worked but don’t know how much I take, maybe I’m just not strong enough, went for a walk with a friend to my near by park, walked there and a little way around park then sat for a bit then on way back I was so much pressure and pain like my bladder was trying to push it out, really not sure this is normal , got home went to the loo which relieve the pressure then had lower stomach pains. I feel I’m going to give up tomorrow and have it removed but really scared I know my bladder will prolapse again and I have that to deal with!! Anymore advice do you get much pressure with a pessery?

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Hang in there Baker 12, it’s a nightmare I know! Get tomorrow out of the way and then decide. I’ve got 3 days off from and looking after my 92 yr old Mum with later stage Alzheimer’s and I’m trying to take stock of my life. Yesterday was a bad brain day, full of self pity and what have I done to deserve this. Today I’m in fighting mood, sponge and coconut oil in situ, old Spaniel ( the other 2 young & pullers ) had a nice gentle 30 min walk. I’ve trained and worked gundogs all my life, so you can imagine it’s quite a come down. Now thinking positive and looking online for a shooting stick that I can park my sore rear end on when 1. I wait outside the hairdressers next week to have the mane coloured and cut 2. Join OH on the shoot ( If it’s up and running ). What I’m trying to say is try and be positive, life is too short to be going through all this......... Also after the dog walk, I thought be sensible and sit down/ feet up/ more Internet research. Tomorrow it’s Cannabis suppositories ! It just came to me, why hadn’t I thought of it before. I took Mum off all medication 1 yr ago and started her on Cannabis oil ( low strength ) , we’ve progressed gradually to high strength and it’s quite apparent that it has made an enormous difference to anxiety and me climbing the walls. So what I’m trying to say is do not let this thing mental / physical demon take over your life. Easier said than done I know we’re all in this miserable situation, but somehow we have to fight and rise above it. Thinking of you tomorrow take care , keep sharing x

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Baker12 in reply to Spanielgirl

Thankyou so much, it’s just been rubbish I live on my own so my thoughts go round and round, work normally keeps me busy but off with all this at the moment, I have been look after my mum through this pandamic because she has been shielding, then last month my daughter had a mis carriage, so I think things have got to me abit and my problems . I have good friends that phone which is a blessing!! I have a hairdresser appointment Thursday not had one since end of November so ready for a good cut!!! I will get there ever on my hand and knees if I havt to!!! Thankyou again for your msg it helps, you take care too x

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grannydoug in reply to Baker12

I'm so sorry about your current situation ... something I think we can all relate to at some point or other. I'm still amazed at how much my feelings are affected by the state of my prolapse and how different I can feel from hour to hour/day to day etc. Living on my own means I do reach out to a couple of good friends who are so understanding. I try to share the highs to compensate for 'going on' about the lows! I agree with the other posters about starting or continuing with pelvic floor exercises trying to keep moving. My prolapse is grade 3 and use a ring pessary which I've recently had to increase in size. Over the years I've been very lapse about pelvic floor exercises so have restarted them plus some basic core exercises which I can truthfully say help. They can't 'cure' obviously but they do make a difference to how I feel physically. And the definitely improve my mood as I feel I'm taking control as far as I can. I have also continued to walk (not hikes etc!) just gentle, paced local walks in natural surroundings. So uplifting. I hope you can raise your spirits and start to feel better soon. I'm sure the hair dresser will help in that direction!

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Baker12 in reply to grannydoug

Thankyou so much for your lovely reply, it good to know there are people out there who really understand, it’s just so exhausting which way to go with this pessery, I still don’t think it’s comfortable for me to continue with this one so having it removed this afternoon and have asked my doctor to refer me back to hospital and maybe try again with them so in the mean time I will havt to cope again with the prolapse just concerned having been pulled about last 2 weeks that it might be worse then it was also the reason I have asked to go back to hospital is I don’t have much faith in my gp she is not specialist in fitting them and cannot answer any questions, I asked her something after at my appointment last time about the pessery and she just replyed I don’t have one so don’t know!!! I just went for a walk just to get outside only a little walk and the pressure is really uncomfortable so my concern that it’s not right fit, but she cannot tell me if this is normal or it’s not fitting properly, it’s been a hard decision with mixed feelings to have it removed but I know how it is now I would not be unable to work on the shop floor (retail). X

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anniec11 in reply to Baker12

I am sorry to hear that, but can certainly empathise. my GP offers up the same non-profesdional and disconcerting comments, which leave with less confidence on their ability to help than before. So a O am finally changing my GP.

Have you tried pelvic floor therapy? It's possible the same body mechanics that may have contributed to prolapse is also forcing the pessary out? Also, have you tried a larger size?

OK, I am going to bring a bit of laughter into this pathetic world of ours. Years ago I had a pessary put in. In the first place this is a very intimately intrusive procedure that men don't have to go through, but it seems most gyno's are men that do the inserting. I was told that it 'should' help but if I couldn't urinate after 8 hours I was to go to the ER to have it taken out. Well that certainly was consoling. Of course that made me worry. About 6 hrs. later I hadn't urinated and was sure my bladder was extended. I started to panic. I sat on the toilet and pushed like I was having a baby. I don't know how it happened but that pessary somehow flew OUT of the toilet and clear across the bathroom. I was able to urinate again and after giving the pessary a good cleaning the cat had fun playing with it. There's always something in life to laugh about.

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grannydoug in reply to 1Ginge1

That's a great story that could only be shared and understood in a forum like this! It certainly made me laugh visualising the cat and its new toy.

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1Ginge1 in reply to grannydoug

Glad for a moment of humor. You are right, this is the first time I was able to share. I write a senior humor column for our newspaper. That has never gotten in. smile

That’s funny 😄

Hope you’re ok x

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Baker12 in reply to Spanielgirl

Hi ok just got back from hairdressers so that was achievement, good to get rid of so much hair not been cut since the lockdown in November so nearly 5 months, normally have my haircut every 6 weeks!! Did have my pessery removed yesterday and being referred back to hospital, now feel lighter on top (hair) heavier below!!! So putting now putting my feet up x

It’s so hard to know what feels right. It does seem to change during the day depending on what you are doing. There’s lots of good advice and some laughs from all the ladies. You are going through a tough time personally and physically so your mind is bound to go into overdrive. Some quiet time for yourself perhaps listening to some guiding mindfulness (try You Tube) just to help your brain ‘switch off’ for 10 minutes would help. Take care.

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Baker12 in reply to jmdb

Yes I try to switch off from thinking constantly about it, it just takes over my life at the moment because everything is a knock on affect, but I’m sure with perseverance I will get there whether it’s the pessery or op, but Thankyou for you reply and it is a real help knowing there are others who truly understand, take care too x

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Ekks in reply to Baker12

I have been in bed for 5 days now the pain was terrible but I got up this morning and it's gone even my lump seems to have gone. I don't know if its normal or if it's all the rest I have had I'm going for a walk to see how it goes. I hope you find the right treatment soon big hugs 😘

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Spanielgirl in reply to Ekks

Sorry to hear you’ve been out of action for 5 days that’s not good, you poor thing. This demon force seems to strike when you least expect it to. I agree that rest does make a big difference, it’s the pull of gravity that’s the problem. A couple of weeks ago, I felt like I’d been struck by lightening,. After being diagnosed 10yrs ago, it was like a bolt out of the blue , a real shock, something I hadn’t naively expected . However thanks to stumbling across this site in my frantic research, I immediately felt uplifted to hear of others suffering and realised I wasn’t on my own. Strangely but I guess understandably the lump disappears to our relief after resting but reappears as soon as we overdo it. When did we ever have time to stop and think about not over doing it, not lifting, pushing and pulling anything or having to think twice about every aspect of what once was a busy fulfilled life. I suppose somehow we have to put balance into our lives and not get too consumed with this thing that is dragging us down. I should have been looking after my Mum today, she has Alzheimer’s, but whilst ‘ the girlie bits ‘ were feeling sort of ok after a 3 day break from carers duties my Arthritic knee took a turn for the worse and all I was doing was making the bed, give me strength! So I’m sitting

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Ekks in reply to Spanielgirl

I do feel better my walk was cut short when It started to hail Lol. I hope your knee gets better soon there's always something going on and it usually hurts lol. Hugs😘

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Spanielgirl in reply to Ekks

Sorry, clicked send too soon on my message ! To conclude my sent message, I’m sitting with an ice pack on my knee, thinking what is this all about. I hope you enjoyed your walk and feel a bit more uplifted. Take care x

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Baker12 in reply to Ekks

Aww that’s rubbish, don’t over do it easier said then done, I managed going to the hairdressers getting my lockdown mope chopped, tho since I have been home have rested, big hugs to you too x

Persevere with the ring pessary if you can. I've had mine for about 5 or 6 years. The hospital Doctor did it first, in a very offhand way and no communication. Fortunately my GP was very understanding (female !) and I visited her for getting it changed until she retired last year. Anyway, I have had 3 different sizes until I felt comfortable. I sometimes feel a bit of pressure when I need a poo, as though it is coming out. But I'd rather have this than a hysterectomy as has been suggested. I'm a fit and healthy 67yo so I'm hanging on for now. Good luck and don't be embarrassed to speak up.

Thankyou I did have it removed yesterday, maybe I should have persevered but being referred back to hospital, might try again with them or go down op route but really don’t want to go down that route yet, hopefully I won’t have to wait to long before I see someone x

Well you can now tick 2 boxes, hair and pessary, both positive moves one way or the other and you still have a sense of humour ‘ lighter on top, heavier below ‘, hang in there this journey needs guts and determination.You’ve probably gathered that I’m not one for medical intervention and will try any natural alternatives first. As yet no one to my knowledge has commented on using prolapse sponges, see PureSponges.co.uk, not cheap but worth every penny and certainly a god send when it feels like everything is heading south. Just a thought. x

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Ekks in reply to Spanielgirl

I have asked about them but the doctor said I need a scan before they try anything. My coil has gone missing? I forgot I had one. I would like to try all natural options first but I was given HRT to start with. Im not keen but I will give it a go. Thanks for the advice 😘

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