My husband was diagnosed with terminal pancreatic cancer in May 2008 and was given a 6-18 months prognosis. He was an amazing man and refused to go down without a fight. He was determined to outlive the 18 month max prognosis and did just that. When he reached 18 months we had "Kevin's I'm Still Standing Party" to celebrate outliving the prognosis - a fantastic night which, despite him not being great in himself that night, he was rarely off the dance floor !! We were not naive, we knew this disease would eventually get him but he was determined to live life to the full for whatever time he had left and that is exactly what he did. We ticked lots of things off his "Bucket List". He did the Greath South Run a day after being released from hospital despite his Oncolgist's advice that he shouldn't and raised £4,500 for our local Hospice. We had lots of parties and get togethers with friends and family. We had an amazing Oncologist who was receptive to all of our offerings from research we found on the internet. We travelled to Sicily for Cyberknife - not that we thought it would cure the cancer, we just thought it might extend Kevin's life. With hindsight, I'm not sure it was a great idea for Kevin to go through this when he was so weak but it was what he wanted to do and we did whatever he wanted !! Sadly, Kevin passed away 20 moths after diagnosis, aged just 48. He never gave in and the end came very quickly which is just as he hoped it would. We lived a very positive 20 months and my son and I have lots of happy memories of that time despite it also being the worst time of our lives. When you are told you are dying, your zest for life becomes unstoppable. I miss my husband dreadfully and think about him every day but as I say to my son......"your dad didn't crumble when he knew he was dying so we would be doing him a dis-service if we crumbled now". His strength throughout his cancer battle has carried us through the 2 years since he died. We used to say, somebody has to get a miracle so why not us. We didn't get the miracle we hoped for ie a complete irradication of the cancer but we did get 20 very special months and we are grateful for that.
Sending hope and strength to all of you who are fighting your battle and I wish a miracle for each and every one of you x