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Women and Pain

Am new to HU, and noticed that 90% approx of repliers are women.......

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The weaker sex?

Scientifically, women can bear more pain!

So it must be that they just are also better complainers. 😁

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Hi Madlegs....do you really think so? My experience with blokes is that they just go on and on and about stuff we can, and do, deal with in 5 mins: i believe they’re just too timid/macho to commit to sharing their thoughts and emotions (they do have some, I believe) to print as it denotes a sign of “weakness”. Tough on ‘em.....

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Hi yes I agree. I think men generally are too worried about seeming to be weak and their male ego won't take it! I also think many of them are self medicating through alcohol or other means. x

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Definitely....alcohol stuns = oblivion re what’s important. And they’re really one pipe only from their guggle to their zatch. We, on the other hand......

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they go to hookers to chat so did you know that London bomber khalid Masood was seeing a local transvestite for chats as he felt he she was cast down as to how hed felt all his ,life growing up in racist southern England as a black mr child theres different types of pain.

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No I didn't know that and yes you are quite right, men do use prostitutes to release their physical and mental feelings. x

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...who tend to communicate more, & be supportive to others.

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I’d agree with the first, but hesitate as to the second. The right bloje can be a jewel........as long as his attention span lasts!

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Also even these days men have more outlets for their feelings. It is still much more acceptable for men to go alone to a pub than women. Men have less fear of being attacked so they will eg go for a run at night through a park or something. They have greater access to things like sport which is considered natural for a man to do whereas it's not so much for a woman. I know things have changed a lot for the better but it's still a mans world in many ways. x

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Too right. They’ve still git everything going for them and they’re not relinquishing it in a hurry. The very fact that they are physically bigger and more powerful than us will ensure that the world will remain theirs, however much we kick and scream and delude ourselves that we are “the same and better”.

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There are some conditions that have greater manifestations in women than men due to the difference in hormones. Women are also more likely to seek out social situations in order to share their experiences than men.

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Ah but is it nature or nurture? It's the old debate isn't it. x

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With MRIs and genetics, it can be as much to do with nature as nurture.

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Similarily it can equally be about nurture and not nature. The jury is out on that one. x

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Its all so complex, the finest brains even can’t work it out.....

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Very true! x

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QED

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QED

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Back in the good old days men used to sit round the open fire, stare into the flames and say,' Ug'. Now they go the pub/gym and say the same. They don't talk about families or aches and pains like we do cos it would make them vulnerable. Scientifically proven that males have a piece of brain missing, so, like marmite, you either love em or hate em! lol. Jxx

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Well, love ‘em till they behave ridiculously and respect flies out of the window...never to return. We kind of subconsciously wait for that to happen, and it generally does. Why do we never learn....there are a myriad of answers to that one? Hope over experience indeed!

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It's because we have hope that they all aren't such a hopeless case. Some women seem to have found 'a gud un'. I snook thru the gaps in the fence on that one...4 husbands, 3 divorces and now a widow....thank God! l feel l am too old to love again and have my heart broken...yet again. J xx

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Well thats putting a label on us poor bloke's! I think the real reason is many men are afraid to show their feelings! I used to bottle mine up and say nothing! Then I had a nervous breakdown could'nt remember who I was where I lived or anything at all about what I had for a career! Thats why after a few years of doing the same bottling things up I came on here and other site's . this is the only site I have remained on as mostly its a genuine place for help and advice! unfortunately some abuse the site and it seems to those who are using mle names! so in a nutshell Blokes either bottle things up or talk to friends at work or in the pub perhaps or even get proffessional help rather than use forums Probably afraid someone will work out who they really are! it's not that we are stronger or better that managing things I dont know really how other males deal with problems I use here !

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Its definitely not a question of stronger or better. Males are extremely vulnerable. You are one of the few who are prepared to admit this, and we admire you for it. If only your sex would appreciate the fact that women would respect and love them more if they would honestly and directly explain their emotions. And share them

It ain’t gonna happen, and that is unfortunate for all.

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This seems to be a bit of a generalisation which is not necessarily true!

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Well, can’t go into a lot of complex detail here. Don’t get me started.......!

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And it's great that you do Delzek. x

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Hi Delzex, Didn't mean to abuse or upset you, just trying to give a little lighthearted answer to the age old query....why are men and women so different? God made us that way but he doesn't have to explain himself to anybody! He did give us freewill, which really threw a spanner in the works. After 4 husbands, 3 divorces and then becoming a widow, l am at least trying my best to understand. I do not expect anything, merely live in expectation of a happy life.

Kindest Regards, J xx

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No worries whatsoever ever I am hard to upset, I did not see anything. Abusive or hurtful in your post. To be honest I have been trying to find the answer myself ! I try very hard to post without offending anyone,but obviously sometimes inadvertently we do, but honestly don't worry I saw nothing offensive at all,in fact I thought it was a well put light-hearted post hence my daft reply!

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UG UG

Regards Bobk

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