A very good friend of mine has really upset me by telling me my pain is effectively in my head and if I talk to someone it will go... It has really upset me and completely undermined what I have been through including a major operation near my brain. I guess unless you have pain then it's difficult to understand and if the docs dont' have all the answers then people assume it's psychological. But I know in my case it's not. I'm not sure how to put across in a calm way that this is the case.