I am deeply saddened to inform u that my mum Adelaide passed away on 10Feb 2013. She lived just 5mnths with Ovarian cancer. She had 3chemos before surgery and her debulking surgery was on 28Nov2012. She was never the same after surgery.I dont know what went wrong but she had severe nausea and weightloss and ascites post surgery. She was admitted thrice and fluid was drained. Then she had another chemo that didnt help with the ascites, instead she crashed. Post chemo we went for a check up and they found her heart rate high , kept her under observation for an hr, then admitted her, same night she was in ICU. Then they said she was terminal all of a sudden. She was dying in ICU but got better, was shifted into the ward. But the fluid filled everywhere and she had multiple problems(nutrition, breathing, immobility). I stayed with her the last night and called my siblings at 4am when she got worse. She passed away with her kids, mum and partner around her. I cant believe how quickly things went downhill. She was shopping and eating out just before her surgery. Her post surgery scans were completely clear. I miss her terribly as I was her only care giver and I am still stuck in that routine in my mind. I will love her forever. Im glad she is not suffering anymore and Im even gladder that noting could change our love except death. At my wedding last yr she read a poem. I keep watching that video. She said "you will be together forever, till the white wings of death seperate you. Love one another but give not ur hearts to one another, cause only the hand of God can contain your hearts." I have given my mum to God and with it a piece of my heart forever.

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  • Thank you for letting us know what has happened to Adelaide. I'm really sorry to hear she didn't make a recovery after her surgery and her death must be a dreadful loss to you.

    It must be a great comfort having such wonderful memories of your mum. She looks a very beautiful glamorous woman and she was a very very special person.

    The pain must be very raw for now but it will ease and you'll take with you the lovely memories of your mum when she was fit and well and was able to enjoy life to the full.

    My heart goes out to you and the whole family.

    Love Annie x

  • So very sorry for your loss, i am sure you and your mum had a very close relationship and as her main carer she would have felt very loved by you. Take very good care of you,.

  • I'm so sorry. That is a beautiful photo. All my sympathy to you and your family.

    Thinking of you.

    Love Mary xx

  • My deepest sympathy goes out to you and your family, it must be such a shock for this all to have happened in such a short time. My thoughts and prayers are with you love x G x

  • My deepest sympathy to you and your family so so sorry for your loss.

    Lots of love

    suzanne. xxx

  • Oh I am so terribly sorry , you have my deepest sympathy. You both look so beautiful , I cannot imagine how you must be feeling.


    Charlie xxx

  • That's terribly sad, I am so sorry. What a shock it must be, I wish you and your husband all the very best as you support each other through this. She was so beautiful, that's a lovely picture.,


    Sue xxx

  • I am so so sorry for your loss, and wish you to know that you have all my sympathy. I lost my father to cancer 5 years ago, and I still miss him, every day.

    Think of the happy times you had together, and be thankful for them.

    Take care,


  • So sorry to hear about your Mother. It sounds as though you gave her so much love and care, no mother could ask for more.

    One day the pain will ease and although you will always miss her you will remember the happiness you had together rather than the sadness you are feeling now.

    Love Sue x

  • I am so sorry to hear about your sad loss. Our Mums are such special people, as you say always with you in your heart. Thank you for letting us know what has happened. Your Mum must have felt very loved and very cared for at the end of her life, I am sure.

    Wishing you and your family some sense of peace. Your Mum will be at peace now

    Love Wendy xx

  • Can I send you my condolences and prayers. What a beautiful picture you have posted- that is the memory you need to keep.


    Anne xx

  • I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your beautiful mum. I lost mine very quickly after she was diagnosed with OC in 2002, and like you was her main carer. I felt so lost and alone, even though I was surrounded by my family. Time does make it easier but I think of my mum every day and still miss her so much.

    Look after yourself.

    Love Linda xxx

  • I would like to keep msgin u if u dont mind. I am havin a tough time with my grief. I feel like i cant go on.

  • I'm so sorry I haven't replied sooner, I went away on the 1 March and didn't come back until yesterday (8th).

    I do know how you feel and what happened to me affected my life forever, but there is light at the end of the tunnel. I am here for you please send me a message here or privately if you would prefer.

    You have many friends and a lot of support on this site.

    I just hope you are ok.

    Love Linda xx

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