I think it's that time of year but over Xmas and New Year I have really struggled emotionally. I am finding it so hard to come to terms with my diagnosis and the new me. Anyhow, realised I needed help so time to do something about this!!! I visited my local MacMillan Centre and they have been brilliant. counselling started, weekly stress and relaxation classes and enrolled on the Hope course. There is Help for us but sometimes you have to search it out.
I don't think I will ever accept this terrible disease but I'm in a much better state than I was. So for anyone else is struggling, I urge you .... seek out Help x x x
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Thank you for replying - yes I did this and the 'goody' bag was fantastic. Think maybe I did it at the wrong time though - no hair, no eyebrows and no lashes!!! Everyone else seemed to have all these so made me feel more sorry for myself at the time!!!
He offered anti depressants but at the moment I have declined. I'll try with the counselling and stress and relaxation techniques. Hopefully once the better weather comes, it will help x x
I’m glad you’re feeling a bit better, it really is a difficult diagnosis to come to terms with isn’t it? I am pleased the Macmillan centre was able to give the support you need and I hope you continue to improve now you've got their support, we all need something like this from time to time. Don’t forget we’re all here to help you too in any way we can. Keep as well as you possibly can be lovely ❤️Xx Jane
Thank you and it really helps to know that others experience the same feelings from time to time. You are right it is a horrible diagnosis to try to come to terms with. X x
The time of year and the weather don’t help do they? I’m feeling emotionally and physically drained. Desperate for holiday somewhere warm. Look after yourself.
I agree. It's hard to reach out sometimes. Women tend to struggle on no matter what. It's what we are built for but sometimes we need just to take that little step and say, "Please help me". Talk about pot calling the kettle etc. I got into a dreadful state because of other things going on and almost took my own life just before Christmas. Ovacome helped me and I'm so happy to be alive now, despite the beast eating away at me. Today a friend came who has many troubles. She is a cancer survivor from years ago but this time she has family troubles and she came to me for help. I felt so honoured and humbled that she chose me to confide in. I took her to our local charity shop and bought her a coat which she liked. It was a small thing but to see her smile was wonderful. We came home, sat on the sofa and hugged for a long time before she could spill out her troubles and share. She has just left with new strength to fight another day and I did that. I feel so empowered by my humaness, if that's a word.
We all need to reach out to one another when we feel as though life sucks. I didn't realise that until I almost did something very silly. To everyone out there who has a weight to carry every day then please, pick up the phone and call someone, write a letter to someone or just post here to us. Don't do something silly, as I nearly did. You are not alone. There's always someone who will understand and help. Just having someone to listen and not judging is worth a million universes.
Thank you for posting, Eriksendi. You look gorgeous by the way.
Thank you Kryssy. I'm doing a little bit better at the moment since I have had some help. I don't think these feelings will ever go away but I just need to learn to manage them better. I suppose, just like everyone else, I never dreamt in my worst nightmares that this would happen to me. My mum lived until 98, my brother is 20 years older than me and my sister is 13 years older - they are all fit and healthy. Guess I've just been dealt the short straw x x x
I really struggle with this, as well, I seem to go so long and then some thing tips me over the top and I cry for a few days and then ok again, I need to go talk to someone about this but find it hard to talk about.
Trish, phone Anna at Ovacome - 0800 008 7054 - or any of the support team. Anna saved me from the brink and she is full of wisdom, not just about cancer but of life and sometimes we can't see the woods for the trees and get into a downward spiral which is so hard to get out of. From UK it's a free number I think. I paid from France - almost 100 euros as I was on the phone for ages - but it was worth it. She's not going to be affected by what you say to her as she's on the outside, so to speak, and not emotionally involved with you whereas family and friends get upset when we are upset. Good luck. xxxxx
Good to hear you have found help to get you through your bad patch. Goodness knows, we need all the help we can get on this bloody merry go round! I’ve started a Mindfulness course run by my local cancer support centre and am finding it very helpful. All the best Jo 🌺🌸🌼🌻🌹
We are doing some 'mindfulness ' techniques on our Hope Course. Think I might continue with this once the Hope Course has finished. Finding it helpful x x
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