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My brave beautiful Vivien sadly passed way yesterday morning having lost her battle with this dreaded decease.

I looked after her for the past 6 months and kept her at home until the final 4 days before she had to go into the hospice.

She was an amazing women who i am going miss so much.

The picture is me and Vivien on Lake Garda last June 10 days before she 1st went to see the Doctor.

She's at peace now,sleep well sweetheart.

Craig xx

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chaplin

Hello Craig,

I am so sorry that Vivien lost her battle yesterday. Words seem so trite at times like this but I know you will receive warm thoughts from fellow members here which I do hope provide some comfort for you and your family. 

Along with this photo you will have many happy memories to recount over the coming days and weeks of places you visited together. Do stay in touch here if that is what helps you, at those times when you can't sleep and family and friends are not about to share your thoughts with.

I do hope you can, in time, draw some strength from the fact you cared for Vivien at home, making those last week's comfortable for her.

Take care Craig and do look after yourself, please don't be afraid to ask for support you too have been through a tough 6 months or so.

Tracy

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Howick01

So sorry for your loss xxx

Dear Craig. What a beautiful photo.  I am so sorry.  Xxx

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Marianna

My heart and prayers go to you Craig. Only you know the pain your feeling right now. I hope you can find solice in the fact she was with you all the way and you with her. At peace now and in your heart and memories. 

God Bless xx

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foss54

Dear Craig, I am so sorry for your loss. It is wonderful that yo could care for her, at home, and the beautiful memories you have will be precious. Xxx

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doodoolatrice

So sorry Craig, it is indeed a beautiful photo, take care of yourself, Kerry x

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Choski

Dear Craig, there's nothing I can say or write to make this dreadful time any better for you. All I can say is that I'm thinking of you and of Vivien - your photo shows a loving, happy couple and your happiness shines through. This is a hard, dark time and I send you as much strength as I can to help you. Take care of yourself as much as you can, you were there for Vivien and that was so important; I couldn't manage without my husband and I know you gave her strength and love which was so very important.

Clare 

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Lyndy

Thinking of you Craig... Don't know what else to say it is so sad xx

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meboo

What beautiful picture.

I am so sorry to hear your news. It sounds like you did a wonderful job of caring for Vivien. Remember to try and take care of yourself x

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LesleyGreengran

Sorry to hear that Craig. I am sure you were a great comfort to her, and knowing how much you helped will in turn help you over the next few days and months while your grief is raw and hurts so much. That you had some enjoyable time together fairly recently will help too.

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Jackie0

Dear Craig, am truly sorry for your loss.

What a beautiful photograph of you both. I hope that the happy memories and love that you shared with Vivien, will give you some comfort during your time of grieving.

Jackie O X

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citrine

So sorry for your loss.

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trix70

Hello Craig,

A beautiful photo, and I am so sorry to read Viven has passed away.

I can understand how you feel having lost my husband in January, just take it one day at a time and remember the good times.

Wishing you all the best. X

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Lily-Anne

Sending you my condolences. I am so sorry

LA xx

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Caroles1

Everyone has said it all,but you were with Viviene throughout and such a support to her, it is a lovely photo and it's difficult at the moment but you will look back over the memories with fondness and it will get you through.

I do hope you have good friends and a supportive family as you will need them and as others have said we always here for a chat as no one quite knows what you are going through as people that are going through it too.

Best wishes Craig

Carole

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thehusband

Sorry to hear of your loss, my wife (Christina) died from OC nearly 3 years ago after having it for the best part of 3 years.

I wish I could offer words of wisdom, but all I can really say is I hope that you, like me, find comfort in memories and the fact that she is at rest and free from suffering, and that you get support from family and friends.

It doesn't necessarily get easier, but you will cope with it easier as time goes by,  the next week or so will not be easy but you will get through it, we all owe it to our wifes and families to keep going and remember the good times and celebrate their lives.

Take good care of you.

Laurence

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Jo2305

So so sorry for your loss 😢 Look after yourself xx 

Sending condolences. How wonderful that she had you to care for her. I hope you are surrounded by family and friends who bring strength and comfort.

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roseparker

So sad..beautiful photo for you to treasure...bless you x

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Gleedy

So sad and a huge loss.  The picture is beautiful.  Sending love.  

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TrishLey

I'm so sorry for your loss Craig you and your family are in my thoughts - sincere condolences / Trish 

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Btte

You are in my thoughts and prayers Craig, such a lovely photo of you and Vivienne . Love Bridie.

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Solange

I'm so sorry to read your sad post about your beloved Vivien, Craig. My heart goes out to you. I know there are no words that I can write that will ease your pain but I send my love and sympathy. I will be thinking of you.

Take care of yourself, Solange xx

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Juliette35

So very sorry Craig to hear of you loosing Vivien to this terrible disease, the photo of you both is beautiful. My thoughts are with you at this sad time.love Julie x

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Alikay

Dear Craig

I am so sorry to hear your sad news. I hope you can draw comfort from all your happy memories to see you through the dark times you now face. My thoughts are with you and your family. Do take care of yourself.

Love Ali xx

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Venessabr

Many prayers for you and your family's comfort. 

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Susan3

So sorry to hear of the loss of your beautiful wife. I hope all the wonderful memories lessen your heart ache . Be sure to seek out support for yourself and take any help offered . I think it's sometimes overlooked that our partners travel the same road with us DVDs it's no less traumatic or sad. Take time for yourself and hope you are surrounded with family and friends . Your wife will always be with you in spirit , x

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Susan3

Sorry about type meant and not dvds

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kaz14

So, so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family.

Love Kaz xx

I am sorry to hear this.......my thoughts are with you.

juliet

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annieH1

My sympathies to and your family Craig.x 

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Naimish

Extremely Extremely saddened at the news/ I went completely blank on first read....... RIP Vivien. We can try and control everything except....... 

And Craig, may God give you the strength to face this irreparable loss. 

Naimish

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LittleSan

So sad to read this Craig. My thoughts and prayers are with you as you learn to cope without your lovely wife. What a gorgeous picture.  Wishing you love and strength. Sandra x

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thesilent1

Craig, I'm so sorry for your loss.  This disease is so harsh and unfair.  The photo of you both is beautiful.  Words are not enough.  Thinking of you. Ann x

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Beth25

So sorry that you have lost your lovely wife. I'm sure you have many fond memories of good times to sustain you which in time will fill you with happiness that you had her by your side. x

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HogwartsDK

Craig,

So sorry for the loss of Vivian.  What a great picture of you both looking so happy! 

Mind yourself and take care. 

D

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vipervictoria

So very sorry, Craig.  Bless you for caring for her.  Vx

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babsclunn

Dear Craig

So sorry to hear the sad news that Vivienne has passed away .

The photograph is beautiful, May your fond memories of special times give you comfort at this hard time x

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IrishMollyO

I am so sad and sorry  Craig to read about your dear beautiful Vivien. I cannot even imagine your heartbreak. There are no words of comfort I can offer but you know that being there for her meant that she knew she was loved so much. You will always know that and will have no regrets that you didn't do your very best. May God comfort you . Please keep in touch when you need to talk . Take care

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angeladale

So many of us , on this site , are thinking of you as well as your family and friends .

Dreadful , so dreadful for you ; we have all lost yet another member of this community , and each of us , in our own way share your loss .

What a wonderful photo . Difficult to believe that she was harbouring the disease then , such a short time ago .

Do post whenever you need to . 

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antheamary

Such a lovely photo. My thoughts & prayers are with you

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Shqiperia

So sorry for your loss . My thoughts , prayers are with you . 

I am so sorry for your loss, it is hard to lose someone you love.  You did your very best for Vivien and be proud of this.  Thinking of you at this time

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baxbird

I too am saddened by your loss and hope you can take comfort from the happy times you shared. We are all here for you when or if you need us xx

Dawn 

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Catspelle

Dear Craig

So sorry to hear this. You made her remaining time on earth easier. Be kind to you self and when you are ready enjoy your memories of her. X

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ellseybellsey

Craig

I am so sorry to hear Vivian passed away, no words will take your pain away right now but try to draw strength from the memories you have.

Ellsey

I'm so sorry for your loss xx

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grannylo

So sorry for your loss Craig. Thankyou for sharing your lovely photograph of yourself and Vivien. Lxx

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chaplins10

Thank you everyone for your kind messages and kind thoughts.

Really overwhelmed with the amount of replies.

Thank you Craig xxx

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vonny1960

Beautiful photo, so sorry for your loss 

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cah48

So sorry Craig, you look a beautiful couple. Talk about Vivien whenever you can. It must have been such a shock to lose Vivien I really can't think of words of comfort other than you must have some wonderful memories. Take care Carole Herbert x

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alnovca

A beautiful photo!!  I am so sorry for your loss of Vivien.  You are in my thoughts & prayers. Blessings to you!

Andrea

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Hertsmum

So very sorry to hear of your loss Craig,  take comfort in the knowledge you were by her side through it all,  and in time from all your memories of happy moments like the photo.   Madeline xx

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Julie40

So sad to read this Craig.  What a beautiful photo and a special memory.   Love and prayers xo

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Deesales

So sorry to read this my thoughts with you  and thank you for sharing 

Dee 

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Jo-Bo

Hi Craig. Beautiful photograph. I am so sorry for your loss and hope you will find peace and happiness in the future. Jo x

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