I am on here to see if anyone has suffered with the same problem as me and managed to over come it.
This has been going on for around 6 months now I am constantly confessing a things to my partner. This can be anything! Things from my past, constant intrusive thoughts about other men (men who mean absolutely nothing to me), every time we get intimate I will have a thought about some one else, anything as little if I pass someone in the car from my past literally I feel guilt over anything and feel like I need to tell him everything!! It’s got to the point now where I have literally told him everything so I am going back over things and not knowing what is true or not I am telling him things that I don’t even know are true!
This is massively affecting our relationship as he can’t take much more of the EVERY DAY confessions and constantly talking about other men.
I have started therapy 2 months ago now and I don’t seem to be getting any better, has anyone else suffered with this and did things eventually get better?
I can’t keep putting my boyfriend through this I am making his life hell and it’s killing me to see what I am doing to him because I love him so much but I can’t seem to stop!
I know how this works and I know the more I tell him the more things that will come In my head and the only way for it to stop is to stop confessing but I can’t seem to break that cycle!!
I can totally relate to this post! As much as it is hard to do you really need to stop the confessing. This can be done totally in one go or just try delaying it a bit or asking if you really need to confess that right now. I’m always happy to help
Thank you for your reply! It’s comforting knowing people can actually relate to this and I aren’t actually going “crazy”
Are you going through something similar? If so how long for and have you managed to control it at all?
Thank you ☺️
You definitely are not going crazy
Yeah I have/am going through it. It’s been on and off for years. Don’t let that worry you though, it has got so much better and much more controlled. My wife has been very patient with it but there was a time where I am sure she was at the end of her tether but stood by me thankfully.
You just need to tell yourself that it is all in your head. But equally it is okay to have thoughts about others. It doesn’t mean you don’t love your partner. Everyone does it but we place so much extra pressure on ourselves to be perfect.
That’s how I feel now, my boyfriend is trying so hard to stand by me but it’s really getting him down and I hate to see what it’s doing to him.
Have you ever had therapy or medication? If you don’t mind me asking?
Yeah I am on medication for it and have had CBT with a few different people to help and it does make a difference, or it did for me.
It is horrible isn’t it, but it is an illness and it isn’t you