Hi there im 29 years and pregnant with my 1st child. I have been with my partner for 11years.
When going out drinking with or without my partner i used to over do it and get really drunk. (Which wasnt hard for me) i felt i had to get drunk as i am a very shy person.
The morning after a night out i wouldr wake suddenly and think that i done something wrong while drunk (cheated on my partner). I would ask everyone i was out with and they would just call me stupid and of course i didnt. It would take time for me to get over these feelings n know i didnt do anything. I am 33 weeks pregnant now and am having thoughts about those drunken night (did i or didnt i) this baby was planned we were both over the moon when it was positive but now im feeling i shouldnt be this happy n feeling guilt towards my partner. I really dont know what to do.
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Hi...I could be wrong but it sounds more like it's a little bit niggly guilt feeling even though you haven't done anything. And now the feeling of guilt towards your partner is probably hormone levels and a bit of anxiety over a new little bundle of love that's about to arrive. Enjoy your pregnancy and focus on here and now...that's what counts... X
It sounds very much like OCD to me. It's a condition that likes to fill your mind with doubt, even though there is no reason to doubt. Of course you didn't cheat on your partner, but OCD insists that you may have done! Having a baby involves an upheaval in your life, and however pleased you are you are bound to feel moments of trepidation about it, and OCD feeds on that. Do speak to your midwife or pregnancy care team. It is likely that they have some experience in this, as OCD often pops its ugly head up during pregnancy.
Try to ignore the doubts. Easier said than done, as I know only too well! But OCD thrives on attention, and the less attention you give it, the more likely it is to leave you alone.
Remember too that OCD attacks you where you care most, in this case your partner and new baby. I hope that you can take pleasure in your pregnancy and your new baby when s/he arrives and that the doubts will go. But if they don't, or if you have any other OCD-related problems, make sure you talk to your health professionals.
i think it is OCD as if it were not it wouldn't be bothering you as much.OCD feed on the things you ho;ld dear the most ie hubby and baby , plus hormones are all over the place , your bound to have anxietys about all sorts of things. See how you are and if worried go to your doctors .they know all about these problems
Hi, this is very familiar to me, I feel for you! (Also with my husband for 11 years!)
twice it got so bad and out of control that I ended up taking STI tests, as I had worked things up in my head so much. The rational part of my brain knew there was no need but I think it was a strategy to try to “get rid” of the instructive thoughts.
Had a course of CBT which helped me massively, and I learnt that trying to push away intrusive thoughts means that you are treating them differently, so not processing them in a normal way. OCD thrives on our inability to cope with uncertainty (e.g did I cheat?) so big life changes can affect it. All the best for your pregnancy, please do get support if you feel you need it.
Do, because she should understand, and may well have come across other cases of pregnancy-triggered OCD. She may refer you for cognitive behavioural therapy, but try not to let OCD mar your happiness meanwhile!
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