Any advice for a carer?

[Janjis]

Hi All, my husband has been suffering with depression for around 35 years he has taken fluoxetine 60mg per day for many years and it was manageable although over the years it has taken over our lives and the children's too. Then OCD started rearing its head and life got even more difficult, he had worked all this life and never been unemployed but as this took hold even though he did have support from his occupation health dept, he finally got dismissed on ill health incapacity last December this pushed him over the edge, I do believe he had a mini breakdown. Then we were on (and still are) the potent drugs roundabout currently on risperidone 500mg, mirtazapine 30mg, and fluoxetine 60 mg. he was so bad and diagnosed with severe hyperchondria, that when the family were ill with the Xmas sicky bug he actually went out in the freezing cold to sleep in our small car for fear of catching it! The OCD has always been health anxiety worries. so hee we are a year later, he is totally alienating himself he rarely comes out of the bedroom. He makes no conversation at all, we have no social life at all, I know that the drugs are doing this as if he doesn't take then he's partly back to his chirpy cheeky self BUT the OCD health anxieties snowball beyond belief. I can't help, I don't know what to say everything always revolves around how he is feeling. Literally everything else is irrelevant as far as he can see. As a carer I have my elderly mum nearby whose memory is going I also have a 5 year old grandson that has an extremely rare brain condition for which there is no cure he is one of 60-100 people worldwide with CCM3.

So all in all I have enough on my plate in am a very bubbly caring person but am losing faith and hope in this evil situation that's ripped my family apart over the years. Thanks for taking the time to read this.....