Fuming

[Vonnie10]

I've never been so mad !!!I went gp again I seen some random young gp ..had a appointment last week at clinic it was nurse review though it was for my scan so waiting a scan on hands and feet but she said I'll write to your gp urgent letter about pain relief hasn't arrived yet can't move my neck sideways up and down isn't so bad have a dull ache in the base of the skull giving me a headache pain level is still the same in my joint The very first thing gp said oh you have a bit of rhematiod well that was it I told him never ever minimise.what someone is going through don't ever say a bit of RD what a stupid thing to say idiot would he say this to a heart or cancer patient no he wouldn't I asked how long placement did he have on rhematology 6 months he said says it all it made me so mad 😡 I give up .

Thank-you everyone who replied on my other post its was so helpful to me the support we get on this site is brilliant I did put a little thank you on the end of the post but would like to say thanks to you lot who understand how we all feel at times and what we go.through preying you all OK.

[Marionfromhappydays]

I hope you got some help for your pain x

Yeah I would be mad too, bit of rheumatoid 🙄

[springcross]

I don't blame you for being angry Vonnie, I would be too. I would be tempted to write a letter of complaint to the practice manager.

[Vonnie10 in reply to springcross]

I may just do that.

[cyberbarn in reply to springcross]

I would second making a complaint to the practice manager. Was it a fully fledged GP or a trainee GP? fully fledged GPs have to go through an annual appraisal. They have to gather evidence of learning which includes how they have learned from complaints. In a conversation with a practice manager he once said it is important for GPs to get feedback from patients otherwise they struggle with getting enough material for their appraisal!

And if it was a trainee GP (junior doctor) then they have to work closely with the training GP and again this will be a useful learning episode for them to discuss.

A well worded complaint will help this doctor learn to be more empathic and that will make things better for all patients after you.

[Pippy25]

I am sorry to hear this vonnie, to 'trivialise' someones pain/illness for whatever reason is not acceptable and how does this help you the patient feel on hearing it. I often wonder if the coin was reversed just how they would not only cope with the illness but also receiving comments such as this. So sending some supportive wishes out to you. xx

[Neonkittie17 in reply to Pippy25]

Exactly this! x

[Pippy25 in reply to Neonkittie17]

Thanks NK. If only we were all text book cases hey. Alas we are all different and experience things unique to our body. As I said to my GP recently, weather she liked it or not after a 'throw away' remark she made about my health, if we were all the same then medicine and practice would have remained the same. Although I did want to say but refrained if that was the case we no doubt would still be boring holes in people's heads, blood letting and still using ancient practices.

[Neonkittie17]

Hmm, sounds like he’s got more than a bit of insensitivity to me. (Do try not to see him again!) Gentle hugs to you and hope your scan appointments come through very soon and then you can see what’s going on and if it is thought a change of meds is needed. 💗x

[Angjoplin]

I have found a lot of doctors to be patronising. Makes me extremly angry at times. I would like to give some of them a good shake.

[aliplayspiano]

it was a young trainee gp who diagnosed my RA. He was very thorough, organised blood tests straight away and when they came back with positive R factor and anti ccp arranged quick referral to rheumatology. I don’t know if it helped that his supervising GP was married to a rheumatologist! I was very impressed with the way he treated me.

[Plumcrumble]

A bit of rheumatoid, what a cheek, glad you told him, sending best wishes

[Gnarli]

What a twonk. It's like saying 'a bit pregnant'. That GP needed a short, sharp course in empathy and rheumatology. I do hope you were prescribed something to relieve your pain after all that aggravation.

[Createsomething]

I'm sorry to hear about this and I'm glad you complained. I wish I'd said something when a GP at my practice said " Oh they're a mess aren't they!" when I showed her my RA ridden hands. Her insensitive comment hurt me and was on my mind for weeks afterwards. If I'd said something there and then to get it off my chest then I would have felt better, but I've always been shy at standing up for myself. Hope you're feeling better.

[katieoxo60]

I sense you anger Vonnie10, calm down I recall my mum being told many years ago she had a bit of cancer , so was a bit confused when I asked what stage. But I did not think younger doctors used such expressions. Her doctor was a well seasoned doctor and his reply to her satisfied mum and she lived to 97 with very few health issues besides a chronic cough& diabetes. But I emphasise with you as I hate doctors who do not concentrate on the correct medical facts you are there because of a medical issue you either require advice for or a diagnosis and treatment. What do they teach at medical school these days how to get rid of a patient as quick as possible at no cost.!!!! Hope your next visit is more productive I am begining to find nurses are more medically converse these days, maybe because they meet more patients to learn about things.

[bienassis in reply to katieoxo60]

I find, like you katieoxo60, that specialist RD nurses are better at communicating, and more understanding, of the immediate problems of the disease. They have more contact with patients than most doctors and, from my experience, are being relied on increasingly to take the place of consultants in regular reviews. In many ways, this works well for those who are in a stable condition - thus leaving space for the consultants to handle the newly-diagnosed who are still struggling to find a suitable treatment.

GPs are not specialists, but should, nevertheless, have had some training in doctor/patient relationships; that is, they should never minimise their patients' problems or make absurd and trite remarks.. And they should always be ready to refer patients to specialists if they have no sensible treatment to offer.

We are often told that stress is the old enemy! Difficult to avoid sometimes, isn't it?

[katieoxo60 in reply to bienassis]

Very True es0pecially your last line.

[Ritaritis]

Well done on actually getting an appointment. Paul Hollywood a TV baker suggests taking anger out on kneading dough. It does help but, as others have said, DO complain to stop this happening again. 🐈🐈🐈