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Is it me or what sitting in my garden desperate to see hug family grandkids yet people at the back of my house family s people come and go over the road lady’s boyfriend comes every weekend to visit 😉next door their son visit s go s in house and yet every Thursday they clap for our hero s how hypocritical is that I could scream selfish bloody people their I have had my moan stay safe all you who are self isolating hopefully won’t be long 🤞x

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Eiram50 profile image
Eiram50

Absolutely understand. It infuriates me! It’s incredible how selfish people can be and how dismissive they are of the harm that can so easily be caused x

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Gnarli

No, it's not just you, Soundofmusic52. It infuriates all who are abiding by the Covid19 rules to keep ourselves and our loved ones as safe as we can. The worst thing is that these fools are likely not going to be the ones catching it but carrying it.

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Pippy25

I think things are now starting to unravel and people are going about their business as virtually normal. The goal posts are shifting and getting wider and wider and I totally understand your frustrations. If heaven forbid there is a second wave of this due to people's lack of restraint they no doubt will be the 1st to complain. Keep doing what you are doing and be proud that you are doing the best you can to keep yourself and others safe.

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happytulip

I understand exactly where you are coming from. My neighbours were the same and then accused me of breaking guidelines when I had someone drop food off on my doorstep because they "shouldn't be in my garden."

You have to walk across the front garden to get to my front door!

It wound me up for weeks! Subsequently I went into a flare. As much as it angers you do try to let it go because the only person that it will damage is you. It's easier said than done. But do try to let it go or vent away on here or to a friend.

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Mmrr

It seems to be unravelling in Scotland too, my neighbour who is shielding has just had her daughter (a nurse) and SIL in her house today.

It does effect me directly as the footfall around the shared gardens has increased substantially, increasing the risk of bringing the virus in.

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allanah

And now Mr Cummings road trip ....😂

in reply toallanah

Any respect for you know who totally shot .. sturgeon had integrity and put the public first. Feel like we have been treated like fools and are disposable . Very impressed with all opposition and their consistent criticism . Not just the road trip. Many questions still unanswered. Why getting PPE so hard? Are children carriers ? Can they spread the disease.?

I am disappointed the press who were hounding Cummings didn’t respect the distancing rules. So many not respecting 2meter ruling

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allanah in reply to

Yes my daughter is teaching. They are not allowed PPE!

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Mmrr in reply toallanah

😭

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Neonkittie17

Happening all round us here especially the next door mutants. They have not altered their habits in any way. Loads of people coming round.

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MadBunny in reply toNeonkittie17

Mutants.A good word to describe my neighbours who have had people in several times.They even had people staying over last week.What makes me so cross is they always sit right up by our fence so are probably less than 1ft away from me when Im sitting on the garden bench.The gardens are narrow anyway but it wouldnt be a problem in normal times.

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medway-lady in reply toMadBunny

A better word than Mutants is Cummin's or Lemmings because behaviour like this will make us all fall off the cliff. Or are we all stupid for abiding by the rules and missing the family and friends. If Boris had explained why DC went north this would probably be over but he did'nt and so it will go on. And how can the neighbours be prosecuted when DC isn't.

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MadBunny in reply tomedway-lady

True.Ive just read that Cummins' child is autistic so they needed to take him to adults with whom he is familiar.That may well be the case, and he didnt want to say anything as it's private,which I fully understand.Particularly with the way the media hound him.Surely something could have been said without compromising his privacy too much ? Otherwise it will continue to cause resentment because people will see it as double standards.Having said that though, there are probably a lot of parents out there who are struggling with difficult circumstances but dont break the rules.

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Soundofmusic52 in reply toMadBunny

I do understand him not wanting to leave his son if they were taken ill what I don’t understand is why would he drive to castle 30 miles to test his eye sight surely you would not drive anywhere and put your family at risk if you had problems with your eyes maybe it me don’t no 🤓👀

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MadBunny in reply toSoundofmusic52

Me neither.Seems odd.Surely you dont drive if you are in any doubt about your eyesight?

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Sheila_G

I agree. Sadly we all have people like that living in our neighbourhoods. I don't get it. 😠

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bubblyalex

So many people think the rules don’t apply to them. They make their own rules up... I have friends who are breaking the rules big time (one has her sons gf coming to stay for a few days over half term 😏) and justify by saying things like I risk assessed and I’m ok with it 😢 My ex bar steward husband picked our son up the other day ... and he had a ‘friend’ in his car with him!! So now it is clear he isn’t observing lockdown rules at all either and our son is staying there for the week. Add to that ... who the heck brings their ‘friend’ to the ex wife’s house and especially when the bar steward knows he is not welcome to be here at all 😳

Thank goodness son can isolate fully when he returns but for gods sake... what are they all playing at! Sorry I’m ranting and furious and furious that our son can’t see how bad and untrustworthy his father is. Grrrrr 😔

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CloudTreeDrive13

I have seen this with my next door neighbour and one of her sons is a doctor no less. She's also had people in to do her garden. Stupid people out there xxxx

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achyknitter

For the last month, I have been keeping a record of the number of new cases each day in my area. It has been steadily falling until the second part of last week when the number appears to have started to climb again. Five days is not enough to confirm that this is anything other than a blip but I shall not be going out any time soon, certainly not to the local beaches.

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HevP

😷😠🙏

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MadBunny

Flipping cheek.Next door have got visitors again and theyre letting the kids run in our front garden.Unfortunately its open plan but its not a public area!!!I want to say something but my husband doesnt want to rock the boat.Sorry to rant but iIm getting so fed up when I have to shield and follow rules😈Sorry rant over.

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Soundofmusic52

So bloody disrespectful some people are I no you don’t like to rock the boat but it’s only manners obviously your neighbors are all about themselves sod everyone else keep chin up stay safe x

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MadBunny in reply toSoundofmusic52

Thank you.It got worse as the day went on ,more peole turned upland yet again I couldnt sit in the garden because of the noise and dope smoking.I was in tears for much of the afternoon.Ive tried to rise above it and carry on as normal but its getting me down so much its now starting to have an effect on my health.

Oh well-its a sunny day again-lets see what it brings.

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Vonnie10

Hi it’s difficult . My sister is very sick heart failure she is at the end you don’t know people’s circumstances we presume everyone is ignoring the rules.. I have to go stay with my lovely sister she is going to die soon Any day she can’t be left on her own she a falls risk because her bp is low she is so frail.. I’m suppose to be shielding but what can I do at a time like this..

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Soundofmusic52

I understand deeply your circumstances I would do the same it’s people who are visiting others in gardens having party s laughter hugging grandkids I miss mine so much my friend her brother died on his own in hospital nothing to do with corona only 6 allowed at funeral it’s bad time we’re going through

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Vonnie10 in reply toSoundofmusic52

Som it’s bad everyones got a opinion and dead judgmental my sister is at home we all take turns I would never leave her to die alone that’s is just to much . Could not live with myself..we may look like that family in the garden laughing but like I said you don’t truly know what’s going on .sad times

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