lose or die?

[Puppet69]

I have been out of communication for a while. Right now I am fuming. I went to my heart doctor last week, he took one look at me and my charts, and said lose weight. Not empathy, not real help, just lose weight fatty (he did not say fatty, but his eyes and mannerism said it loud and clear). I have tried, I am not successful. I lost 10 pounds, gained 11. Loose 20, gain 21. I hate it, and I am beginning to hate me. I guess I am just to weak, and apparently stupid to please the doctor. My heart, back, joints and everything on me hurts. Oh well, skinny doc says "just lose weight, good bye for now". I don't need advice, just wanted to let off steam. Sometimes I feel like just giving up, it is so so hard.

[ruth_p]

Sorry this doctor was such an unhelpful and uncaring arse. I would put in a complaint to the hospital. Please don’t be so hard on yourself.

[Triscichick]

My heart goes out to you. I don’t know your age or your circumstances, but do some online research. I started an anti inflammatory paleo diet 6 years ago, and my weight, blood pressure, and joint pain have subsided. I’m not issue free, but better.

[Puppet69 in reply to Triscichick]

69 is my age, and I do feel like a puppet. Like most people my age, I live on a fixed income. I tried to do a little more exercise this weekend, and today I can hardly move.

[helixhelix]

Vent away.....once you’ve let off steam makes it easier to move forward.

Have you looked at the weight loss NHS community on here? You might find that could help you be successful.

[Puppet69 in reply to helixhelix]

NO, but I will today. I am not good at alphabet soup, so I am not up on all the abbreviations. NHS here I come for a look see.

[helixhelix in reply to Puppet69]

Well done for wanting to. Don’t let one doctor with the charm of a tabletop annoy you to the extent of not wanting to try. Losing weight is hard, but we know it makes sense (you’re probably not old enough to remember the ads for seatbelts? Clunk click, every trip - you know it makes sense!). You’ll get there in the end, and it will help you not the stupid doctor, so ignore him.

[happyinlove in reply to Puppet69]

puppet

Good luck with your attempt to lose weight

My eyes are much bigger than my stomabk

If bc tjr bc plate is not full I am hungry again

Now I make a big salad extra virgin olive oil some nuts or seeds to vary it

Put the salad first and fill my plate all that chewing had helped

I love a big plate of n rice

My daughter bought me quinoa

Not as nice as rice but I add different stuff and chopped herbs to make it less boring

Had helped a bit also I drink a lot bc of hot water that helps me to visit tjr loo

All the best and bc let me bc know n how bc you bc are getting on

Nice to go for a bc walk too

my kepboard adds bc please ignore

[janeywaney63]

Don’t let one nasty Doctor make you feel like that please. Do they think we’re so stupid that we don’t know we would be better if we lost weight. If it was that easy we’d all be stick insects. I’m expecting the same sympathy tomorrow when I see someone new about my knee pain.

[cathie]

This is so unhelpful on the part of drs. Total lack of empathy

[Puppet69 in reply to cathie]

I wish the doctor wasn't so skinny. He also is from India, so I believe he has a different frame of reference.

[helixhelix in reply to Puppet69]

I used to live in an area with lots of indian families....the young people were skinny, but older people were just like the rest of us.

[Hidden]

Know exactly how you feel. On top of the RA which has decreased my ability to get about, I was recently diagnosed Diabetic. Like you, the first thing out of the Drs mouth was lose weight. So the first thought in my head, was, 'No Shit, Sherlock'!!!. So I politely asked, him how was I supposed to do that, considering that I cannot do any form of exercise or walking without being in a huge amount of pain. Or the fact, that I watch what I eat strictly, as I am on a very tight budget as my income, comes solely from Disability and Income support.

So by the time the bills are paid, there is a limited amount left for food. I also pointed out the fact, that until I got RA, I had a good body weight. And as the years have gone by, and the number of pills, I have been put on, (Probably the reason, that keeps Boots, Pharmacy in profit, lol..) Which, by the way, all say side effects, could cause ' weight gain'.. Which in my case, clearly has. And the fact that my mobility has decreased by half of what I used to be able to do.

To which he just politely smiled at me.

Funnily enough, my weight doesn't get mentioned so often.

I rant all the time.

I especially like a good 'Rant', on the drive home. When there is only me around to hear it. It makes you feel good about things.

My point is don't let the' buggers', get you down.. And 'RANT' away...

All the best...

[Hidden]

You’re entitled to vent. If a doctor is going to say that, they should at the very least refer you to someone who can help, as obviously he has NFI! In the absence of the good doctor being helpful, perhaps an exercise physiologist and a dietician might be helpful? Apologies if you’ve been down that path, don’t want to offend, cheers

[BonnieT]

Hi, Puppet! I went to a doctor who also told me to lose weight. But he also said, you’re 70 but have the body of an 80 year old. I can’t do anything for you. I found a better doctor who sent me to a rheumatologist who found my diagnosis to be RA. Have you looked for another doctor? If not, please do. Hugs!

[dbestdeb]

If it makes you feel any better, my doctor said don’t worry about your weight. You are able to be somewhat active and that is the goal. Just eat healthy food and leave out the processed stuff like cookies, cakes, breads, and pasta because they are inflammatory foods and will make you feel worse.

He shouldn’t have been so rude and mean to you. A medical degree doesn’t excuse him from being a decent human being.

[Hidden]

Bloody doctors!!!!! Do they really think we like to be like this on medication that needs to be monitored isolated from life because of a disease 🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤯🤯😡

Feel much better now 😂

[Puppet69 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you for your understanding. I do believe you must be a little abused to understand abuse, doesn't make it right. I like how you vent, I need to yell too, but don't.

[Mmrr]

Previously fit and healthy, I struggle with my weight too. It is so difficult to maintain a healthy weight, when you cannot mobilise. Don't let the Drs lack of education and poor bedside manner get to you.

I asked my GP for help with loosing weight 2 years ago, she referred me to an exercise and diet class. I couldn't get out the car and walk into the building myself due to RD. The class were doing gym work and several runs around the astroturf that night. The physio running the class looked at me in disbelief, I went home.

I'm now trying to manage my own weight through eating a healthy diet, but it's so slow going but I am seeing a small weight loss. Best wishes.

[Puppet69 in reply to Mmrr]

I can so relate to what you have said. I really hope you are doing better. My road is long, and sometimes much harder than I want it to be. What makes me so angry is so many people who seem to do almost nothing are OK. I sweat, cry and still can hardly move. Not fair, not fair, not fair.

[Bradclew]

He shouldn’t be a Dr with that attitude.Change your Dr this desease is hard enough to deal with without that uncaring attitude.

Let him try deal with this awful pain he’d soon change his attitude then .

I hope you do change Drs it easy I know I’ve done it

Much love Jean

[HappykindaGal]

I’m making yet another attempt to lose weight with a small support group called Fit as Fork 🤪. I’ll be eating two meals a day within an eight hour period and posting pics on FB. The accountability works for me as it makes me think about the choices I make and it’s easy to do. It’s your peers in the group that make you think as when you see their choices, it somehow affects yours. And it’s no effort.

As for the doc, you could suggest that you have RA but my cognitive skills are in perfect order and I’m very well aware of my weight. I did when I had a similar comment. I looked her directly in the eyes and said that. She quickly apologised for her manner.

[Puppet69]

I am still mad enough at me, that I am working on the starving method.