I have depression

[ann3mar1e]

I feel so alone miserable and just want to be happy again I actually miss being happy and motivated

[sylvi]

Darling may i suggest you go and see your gp and get some help please as you sound like you need some help. I live with depression most of my life on and off over the years. Hugs darling.xxx

[hawker955]

Ann. Start making a list of things that you are grateful for. There will be things, from earlier in your life and/or right now. It might be your parents, and family, your pets, having a great holiday sometime, or the taste of your favourite food. A piece of good luck in the past etc., Maybe something that someone has said, or finding something you had lost and so on? Everyone has something to be grateful for and it is helpful to reflect on whatever those things are.

Hope this helps you.

[AgedCrone]

Once your meds kick in you will be happy again, but with whatever strain of RA you are experiencing you really do just have to dig deep to get to that point. Sorry to be blunt.....but letting this disease take over your life is not an option. Going forward your life maybe different, but don't let it ruin the now! Talk to your rheumy team....they will have experienc of how you feel, & will have sensible advice how to pick yourself up.

Everybody goes through the "why me?" period, but that will pass, & I know very well no words really help at this time....look forward, & convince yourself that by the summer things will be better. .

If you can possibly manage, try not to start on the anti depressant route.....that can be a slippery slope to get off.

[sappy]

Hi Ann Marie

It’s hard at times isn’t it, we all wonder why us and wish that we could miraculously recover and be the person we were before these damn diseases got us.

If you can try and talk to loved ones about how you feel and explain your condition to them so they can support you during those times when you really feel low and alone.

It may be worth seeking advice from your GP too, I had some mindfulness input which gave me a more positive way of understanding and addressing problem areas because I had an insight into why I felt the way I did. It was really helpful to me (being someone who always ensured I showed strength and reliance and rarely emotion or weakness) as it helped me change my view of me or what I thought I wanted to be perceived to be if that makes sense. It certainly made me happier with me.

I agree with Aged Chrone (love that name) in that anti depressants can be a slippery slope if you have other options to help you move on from the place you currently are at.

This is a good forum for advice and support so please keep posting

Take care lisa

[Nettac]

Sorry to hear this... Depression sucks! In my experience, the depression gets better once the inflammation has gone down. When I was at my worst, pain and swelling wise, the depression was bad too.

Is you arthritis well controlled yet? Also, certain drugs can cause hideous depression. Sulfasalazine was awful for.

Wishing you better asap.

[Graceusha1]

Sending good thoughts and hugs your way. You WILL feel happy again. Believe me I've had a lot of experience with this. I've gone through the dark tunnel and I've always gone through it and come out the other side. Hang in there. We are with you and supporting you.

[Magymay]

Hi Annmarie ,I know your post was 2 months ago so was just wondering what condition you have and ifcyyour feeling any better ,I've PSA and it can make you feel so frustrated trying to get your meds right to give some relief .The fatigue can be as bad as depression I just hope with help from a good doc you get help .Believe me there's always someone here to lend an ear so your so not alone ,all the best Annmarie ☺