Although, relatively new to the official diagnosis, RA has been with me for a number of years. I have found that the last 6-8 months have been particularly tough. I've had more flare ups and generally more fatigue. I work full time from home, but work flexible hours because I also watch grandkids a couple mornings a week and I'm sort of a caretaker to my husband as well in the morning as he is partially disabled. This hasn't been a problem in the past. I could still get housework done while watching the grands, then work when they went home or before they came & still take care of meals, etc and be ok. But in the last 3 years or so it started to wear me out a little more. Then about 8 months ago I noticed that I am dead tired by mid-afternoon and actually could fall asleep if it was I sat down & it was quiet for more than 10 minutes at a time. I've seen my housekeeping slip during this time. I find myself having to make a choice between work, family, hobbies that I enjoy, and housekeeping. Housekeeping usually loses out. This is not good for me. I have to work really hard to stay organized, as it's not a natural gift for me. While my house isn't dirty. I can't handle that, it is super unorganized compared to before RA decided to no longer be my silent partner. I have to work. I want & like to watch the grandkids. I feel like I deserve to have some free time to do what I enjoy as far as hobbies, and even then, all of these suffer because I'm so tired. It's not even a good tired, like I actually accomplished something. It's a dreary, dogged type of tired that leaves me exhausted to my core.
So my question is, how do you know it's time to get some in house help? Should I give up hobbies & family time in order to keep house because I feel like I only have enough energy for a certain amount of activities? That doesn't seem like a good answer. I've done the workaholic, too many irons in the fire life for many years, putting family to the side sometimes and hobbies much of the time and I'm simply no longer willing. I also don't know how people swing having in home help financially. When do you know that you've gotten to the point where maybe you shouldn't work as much & do need in home help? Then how do you afford that?