My beloveds are really great when they can see that I'm swollen or clearly having difficulty walking. It gets less clear-cut to them when I am reacting to the medications. How do I tell them that I am so sick that I can't think? I don't know what to feed myself, and I lack the brain power to sort it out. I'm having those migraine-type headaches complete with serious light sensitivity and I don't know what to say to them. I need someone else to plan for now, someone else to help fill the gaps where my brain just doesn't work right now. More to the point, I guess, is how do I do it and not feel like I'm failing?