Hi guys and gals
So my husband was diagnosed with RA a couple of months ago and more recently (Monday in fact) was told that he has FM too.
He is in daily agony as you can all sympathise with but (as awful as it is to say given how he is suffering) home life is becoming unbearable.
Hubby is working full time - he's a carpenter so its hard graft day in day out - and is totally overdoing it.
It was his Rheumatologist who diagnosed the FM but apparently said there is nothing that can be done. I can't believe he would have said that so I am assuming hubby got it wrong.
I keep telling him to get a GP appointment, have offered to book it for him but he says he's just given up and doesn't care any more.
I suggested he have a look on this site - he won't.
I don't know what to say or do for him. He currently has a really bad flare up in his knee and can barely walk. How on earth he goes to work is beyond me.
Financially he cannot give up work - I have said we need to downsize and live off my wages when he has flare ups - he refuses to do this.
I know it's hard for him to take all this in, tonight he said he cannot face a future of being in chronic pain and effectively being disabled.
He's currently on Methotrexate which he takes once a week.
My husband is incredibly negative (and unlucky) anyway and I can't help but feel this is making the FM even worse.
He won't take antidepressants, he won't see a counsellor, he says he is in too much pain to exercise, despite me pointing out he needs to start off small with stretching. I've suggested he see a physio...he's considering this at least.
I just don't know what else to do. If I say nothing I feel like I'm turning my back but what else do I do?!
Help! Sorry for the long post!