Red Nose Day: Hi I am a man or so I'm told. But broke... - NRAS

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Hi

I am a man or so I'm told. But broke down in tears on Friday when I saw the young children who are carers to us adults. Without my sons helping me I would also be house bound. I'm glad that so of the money is going to help them. RA have carers too. Not that I am sorry that we give some to others countires they need it too. So well done all.

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emandedmum

My biggest fear is that my children will at some point become my carers. My daughter is 8 and watched the film that you mention, we were both in tears for different reasons...her empathising with the girl for having an ill mum and me because their roles had been reversed and I dread that day if/when it comes for us.

I am very careful about what I ask my children to help me do...just simple things like unloading the dishwasher, helping with the laundry and tiding their toys etc, normal childish chores, nothing too heavy or demanding but essentially a big help to me without them really realising it!

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I'm like you Jo, my son helps me out and does what I ask, but I always promised myself I would never keep reminding him that I have RA. He can see what it does to me already.

I always got him to do the normal childrens chores too, nothing different to not having the RA.

It's a fine line really of getting them to understand without frightening them either. I want my son to have a normal life as possible.things may be different as I get older though like beep I would hate to be house bound.

mand xx

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I know how you must feel, I'm lucky mine are adults. One still lives with me and the other pops round to see if I need anything. I to would hate it they were young.

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Tricia-P

Hi Beeper,

You must be proud of your sons, and all you that have children still at home it must be awful. My son is married with 2 boys 1 a baby and the othe a toddler, and when he saw me in the kitchen moving around holding on to the tops for stability, I saw him look then off he went pocket rocket and got my stick from the living room, thats when I had tears in my eyes. So you guys be proud of your children they will bring you so much joy.

Tx

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