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Pathetic me!!

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Major feeling sorry for myself rant alert!!

Well that quit lasted well! What a joke I am? Maybe I'm addicted to serial quitting as well as nicotine.

I can't stick at anything, want to stop smoking, want to lose weight, want to feel happy and proud in myself but can I do it, doesn't look like it. I can seem to stick at anything, why!!

Always go back smoking like an idiot ! I'm that pathetic I've paid nearly £100 in fees to the gym and I haven't even been to pick up my membership card!!

I've read numerous stop smoking books, bought apps, tried the Ecig and what's worse, I've had lost both parents to smoking!!!

Have decided to give it another go tomorrow but I'm already doubting myself, think it's the fear. Keep reading that you need to be ready and want to 100%, I do want to stop and be free from this addiction but my mind always seems to find a reason to start again. So sick and tired of this battle, will I ever be ready!

I think I've made it a million times harder for myself now as with all these failures I have very little confidence in myself!

If your still reading, sorry!

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Mrs M - stop trying to do everything at once. It's not good to try and give up smoking, get your monies worth from the gym and go on a diet - it won't work and you'll end up not accomplishing any.

Step back, look at where the triggers are when you lose your quits - then brush yourself down, get back on your quit and focus on that only. The diet and exercise can come when your ready.

You know you can do it - have faith in yourself :)

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Thank you x

Thanks for you kind words everyone, I'll just keep trying.

Just smoked my last and threw the rest over the fence which actually felt rather good.

Day one, I'm coming to get you!

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Aww Mrs M.

I have done the same as you. I was stupid and tried to start a quit when I was feeling very sad. I know smoking hasn't changed anything but i should have waited for this period to be over first. I also tried to bury a hatchet but it wasn't to be. I understand you can't be everyone's friend but because I was already emotional it hurt more than I imagined :( So not a good week all in all to attempt such a big life change.

The point I'm making is that the right time isn't always today but that doesn't make you a failure.

You will find your quit Mrs M x x

So sorry to hear you had a bad week Karri, really hope you start to feel better soon. As you say, it's hard to find the right time and it does depend on whata happening in life.

I'm going to give it another go starting now, one of these tries will be the one!

We're here for you when your ready to try again Karri x

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Well done get back on it tomorrow's a new day is serial quitters will get to that bloomin penthouse by hook or by crook :D :D

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I have done the same as you. I was stupid and tried to start a quit when I was feeling very sad. I know smoking hasn't changed anything but i should have waited for this period to be over first.

You will find your quit Mrs M x x

No smypathy for you at all. That's only an excuse to justify failure to yourself and others. If you want to stop you will. There is never a "right" time to stop because there's always something going on in life. Good or bad you deal with it, too many people quit then wait for an excuse to justify going back to smoking.

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I don't think she was expecting any sympathy Peter, certainly not from you :rolleyes:

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Enough said

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I'm sorry but giving up when things get a little difficult shouldn't be condoned.

To me, it's taking the easy way out. Even before quitting, people should realise just how lucky they are to have the freedom of choice to give up.

If you are diagnosed with lung disease, cancer, etc, and the decision to give up smoking is forced on you then you'll have more that a little difficulty to deal with. By then of course it will be too late for you.

It's not easy to give up smoking. It is however, easy to give up, giving up smoking.

Before you do, or don't give up smoking, be grateful you still have the choice. The day may come, without warning, that that choice is no longer yours.

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No smypathy for you at all. That's only an excuse to justify failure to yourself and others. If you want to stop you will. There is never a "right" time to stop because there's always something going on in life. Good or bad you deal with it, too many people quit then wait for an excuse to justify going back to smoking.

Wow. You clearly have NO understanding of what addiction is.

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Thank you for the insults ladies. :D I'll treasure them!

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Wow. You clearly have NO understanding of what addiction is.

What a ridiculous comment to make.

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Hello Folks:)

Mrs M is back on track :D

Well done mrs M

J x :)

That's the main thing here, well done Mrs M onwards and upwards :) xxx

Awwww so sorry.

Good luck in your new quit Mrs M - stay positive!

Xx

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Thanks everyone!

Doing ok today, stuck with it! Today I choose not to smoke :-)

Aww Jen, the fence is low but there's a big drop at the other side so I knew I wouldn't be going after them lol!

Hubby wasn't too impressed this morning when he was looking for one :eek:

I just had to get them out of the house :-)

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Doing ok today, stuck with it! Today I choose not to smoke :-)

Aww Jen, the fence is low but there's a big drop at the other side so I knew I wouldn't be going after them lol!

Hubby wasn't too impressed this morning when he was looking for one :eek:

I just had to get them out of the house :-)

Best thing u could of done if u hadn't u wouldn't be here at nearly he end of day 1 good shout Mrs! :) xx

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