uber-unsupportive mother

just had a row with my mother and she totally dismissed my quit.

she misunderstood something I said about my quit and said and not having spontanious positive re-enforcement from friends and family except her ( only once in six days!!) so she said " well its hard to be enthusiastic about you giving up smoking because you have done it a few times".... really F**cking helpful mum, thanks... remind me of my relapses and discount the willpower and determination of the last six days!!! I am so angry with her!:mad:

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  • ahhh SENDING YOU VITUAL BIG HUGS :(

    just remember why you are doing it and try and not let what your mum said get to you i know its hard

    mind you mums do have a habit of forgetting and saying things that they dont realise hurt perhaps you should mention that when you speak to her next

    take care

    Carol

  • Awww, bless you. In ordinary circumstances I would say ignore a negative person like that but a tad difficult if it's your mum. Having said that you can ignore what she said, shoulders back, chest out & PROVE HER WRONG :D

    Gaynor x

  • Vicki

    I know its not easy and i know im not in your shoes but try not to worry about what others say or do. This is your quit and your gonna show them how strong you are cos this time its for ever. Dont let others drag you down as its not worth it, your already vulnerable and so are picking up the slightest of vibes so just go with the flow and the only person you have to proove anything to is YOU.

    Good luck hun, we are there for you, we beleive in you ;)

  • At the end of the day she is still your mum just ignore it and prove her wrong and give up for good.

    i find that with my mum because she smokes herself she almost begrudges any of us giving up smoking kind of gets my goat up.

    dont let it get you down i think you are doing realy well 6 days ct with no smokes well done keep up the good work

    nic

  • just had a row with my mother and she totally dismissed my quit.

    she misunderstood something I said about my quit and said and not having spontanious positive re-enforcement from friends and family except her ( only once in six days!!) so she said " well its hard to be enthusiastic about you giving up smoking because you have done it a few times".... really F**cking helpful mum, thanks... remind me of my relapses and discount the willpower and determination of the last six days!!! I am so angry with her!:mad:

    Time to show them what you can do then, dont be dismayed, dont give up ... quit and show her this is the last time. Some people really dont know theyre being unsupportive ... and others, well they just dont care about things like this if you dont do it fist time (forgetting that if they smoked, they probably couldnt either lol)

    We're all here for you ! So thats all you need, and in 12 months time when you havent had a smoke .... you can rub their faces (in an ashtray :P )

  • thanks guys.... you know, the things that p*ssed me off most was that A) I have quit three times, once for 8 YEARS, and the other times for a year a piece, its not like my quits were fades... and B) my mum is an ex smoker of 10 years who made several attempts herself before, so she is being hypocritial... and anytime she gave up I never once said anything like she siad this afternoon. GRRRRR

    anyway, I wont smoke again, but I wont be doing it to prove her wrong, and I won't be thanking her either. I had decided to give up well before she came out with that crap and I can do it with or without her support!

  • thats the way to think :) at the end of the day its all down to you and no one else regardless of how they think or what they say

    this site has def helped me on my quit and reading alot of the threads and links to it has def made a big difference

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