Hello I just had my third kidney transplant in December. I had multiple pre transplant day long meetings to decide the best option for me having a third transplant and it was decided my fiance would donate and we would do paired exchange as a live donor and planned transplant would be for the best outcome. My fiance went through many tests and received his congratulations letter saying he was approved to donate kidney.
On December 7th I received a phone call saying that they had a cadaver kidney for me. I told the woman that this must be a mistake as I had a donor and we had a very specific plan that the entire transplant team came up with for paired exchange and that I wanted to speak with one of MY doctors. She called back saying THE Dr there said he thought I should take the kidney because I had high antibodies and was hard to match. This was already well known to myself and my team so I again tried to explain that I had just seen my transplant Dr two days ago and the plan was for paired exchange but again I was told I should accept the kidney. Honestly I was in shock and said ok even though everything in me was screaming this isn't right.....Anyway, I received the kidney early in the morning and I have had constant complications since. Tubular injury, narrow ureter which they are saying is a ureteral stricture and moderate vascular issues with donor kidney. I now have a nephrostomy tube and I have had for months. They have tried stent first which did not work,then tried ballooning which worked temporarily for a month before the ureter narrowed again causing hydrophrenosis....It seems that they have run out of options as transplant team sent me to urologist who stated to me that they had already done everything she would have done but that they asked her to try again to stent but from the opposite end ,which she said she felt had very little chance of working but that she was going to try for me and the team........I asked my transplant Dr what would be the next step if this next attempt didn't work and he said that it would be a possible surgery which is very complicated and might not be a viable option for me or having nephrostomy tube and exchanges of every 6-8 weeks for life of this kidney...problem is my nephrostomy tube gets clogged every 3-4 weeks and then my ureter narrows back at 4 weeks so I wouldn't make the 6-8 weeks for the life of the kidney without getting hydrophrenosis again and of course there's infection risk,bleeding risk,urine leak risk etc.....Was wondering if anyone else has had a similar problem and if anyone knows of any other solutions. I have read of ureteral side by side retransplantation....using a native kidney ureter or cutting the narrowed part of ureter and reattaching. I've been really stressed and worried because I don't have dialysis access and my third transplant has been done...theres no going back in time....the difference between a second and third is pretty similar as far as success rate and longevity of graft but there is a much bigger difference between the third and fourth. Im scared and struggling with the fact I didn't stick to saying no to this kidney when I knew that it was not the plan at all and I can never get that third chance back. I know I need to let that go and deal with the situation now but I've never received a single answer from my team when I've asked why was I called in for cadaver kidney instead of going with the plan of live donor paired exchange which they all agreed was the best for me....I've literally asked everyone and they all will not answer and just change the subject. I feel an answer would help me move forward and be able to deal with this current situation and problems better.
I would appreciate soo much any advice or information on ureteral stricture and solutions. I know sometimes some hospitals are aware of something new that others are not yet.
Take care and thanks for taking the time to read my post!