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Dialysis or Transplant?

I am in my early 40s and recently started dialysis (PD). Been trying to get potential donors and my parents volunteered to be evaluated as donors. My parents are 70 years old. It turns out my dad got through all the tests and have been approved as a “backup donor”. We are not direct match and would need to go through exchange program. In addition, my rejection rate is quite high (93%).

Given my dad’s age, I don’t think he should donate and participate in the exchange program. Is it better for me to keep on dialysis and wait for deceased donor?

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I was lucky as I knew I did not want dialysis. I had my transplant 5 months ago! I received a kidney from a 20 year old! Hang in there! It will happen! I said a lot of prayers! I went on a plant based diet which I know helped! No dairy or meat! I also worked with a dietician. I was on the list for 2 years! Very lucky! I wish you the best!

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Congrats on getting a kidney!

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Utilize social media put the word out to your network asking them to spread the word to their network and so on. I did not ask specifically for a kidney but to spread the word. My wife had a much bigger social network and was great at putting the word out. Tell people about yourself. I created an ad with a dog we recently adopted which said “ My owner saved me please save him”. I thought it would take years to find a donor. A number of people told us they were tested but were disqualified for different health reasons. I was extremely lucky. After six months someone at my synagogue volunteered and was a match. Do not give up a donor will come when you least expect it.

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My 39-year-old son received his kidney from my 55-year-old best friend She was a good match. I am 62. I didn't match but tested to go into the pairing exchange program and was told by the Mayo Clinic and Avera Transplant that age mattered less than kidney function and overall health. A center WILL NOT pass a person for transplant if it will risk or impair their life. As a parent you want to help your child, no matter what the age, have a happier, healthier life. Dialysis is difficult on your body. Get a transplant while you are still healthy enough to get it. Both my son and friend are doing wonderfully! I hope you get your kidney soon!

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That's all kind of up to you and how long the wait is for a deceased donor. If you are in the Midwest section of the US it seems that the wait list is shorter than in other parts of the country. I t all depends on your blood type and the 6 tissue markers

I had my transplant in 1999, so there was no social media....but I told neighbors, relatives, friends, people at work, my husband's work, clubs I belonged to, and church/synagogue. I had a cousin that was going to be my donor, as well as my brother. Both were ruled out early due to both found to have high BP. 2 friends at church were tested and did not match but 1 went on to be a living donor for someone she did not know. A friend of mine was going to start the process and I got called for a deceased donor transplant in the meantime. My donor was a 16 year old that was killed in an auto accident. He was a 4/6 match. I never had a rejection episode and because of the good match was able to take a lower dose of the immunosuppressant drugs I have to take. In 1999 my wait for a transplant was 14 months.

I know someone that actually put a sign up in their yard with their blood type and his need for a transplant. Someone else actually had a t-shirt printed with their need for a transplant/ blood type, etc. and wore it on a family trip to Disney. Both got there living donor.

So, in many respects, you have to think outside the box.

A kidney transplant is one of the greatest GIFTS OF LIFE!

Keep us posted with your search for a donor.

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Hi I’m in my 50’s and received a kidney direct from my Dad last November and he’s in his 70’s. We were both quite physically fit, but both are currently doing well. Frankly Dad did initially feel quite rotten, and lost a stone on weight, but after a month he was fine and doing really well. Now he’s saying it’s the best thing he’s done, and would recommend donating to anyone. We did consider the exchange scheme here in the UK but with a 50% match it wasn’t really necessary. It’s likely he will regain some of the kidney function (eGFR) he initially lost, but my prospects are far better. My eGFR went down to 10, but is now averaging 45. Transplant is the best option overall as pretty much normal lifestyle can be resumed.

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I am approaching my 1 year anniversary with my new kidney! Transplant all the way. If you have been approved to receive and your dad has been approved to donate (trust the approval process) and get on the swap program. My husband gave for me through a swap and together 3 donors gave to 3 recipients. We are all doing great and living our best lives. Don't let dialysis be your life and waiting is years in the making, on average. God Bless, lean in to it and go for it!

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Also, not sure what you mean by "rejection rate" but I was extremely difficult to match due to antibodies and even at that we were placed in a swap and transplanted 8 months after my husband was approved to donate. I was almost 52 when I got my kidney.

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Don't let this opportunity pass you by. Trust the process. Depending on where you live the wait for a donor can be quite long. I'm in California and the wait for my blood type and probably like yourself have high antibody count ( which made my donor pool even smaller) was 5 to 10 years. My wait this time was 5 years, thank God. However their were people in my unit who have been waiting 9, 10 years. Wishing you well and praying surgery goes well for both you and your father. Please keep us updated.

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I’m 37 had my kidney transplant from my mom who is 70. I’m doing better kidney is working but it’s no easy task. My mom is recovering and doing better I always knew she would. It’s your call in the end . My mom was always strong talk your parents seriously about it, was not an easy conversation for us but we decided to go through. The risks were high but it was all worth it in the end. I wish you the best of luck

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Also banner medical in Az Tucson has a great program wait list is 18 months. Was my back option

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HI Bsasup,

Glad to know that it worked out for you and your mom!

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