Please advise. I'm so lost and concerned... - Kidney Dialysis

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Please advise. I'm so lost and concerned...

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Hi... My best friend has had kidney failure for some years. Six months ago he suddently got very sick again. Multiple blood transfuisions. Dialysis twice a week. Been in ICU more than not last 6 months. Last week he was vomitting blood. He just got out of ICU and is back in again - fluid in lungs and can't breathe. This is the first time he's told me," I'm not sure I'll be OK".

I am feeling completely overwhelmed.

Please can someone offer some words? Any?

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Beachgirl32

I’m sorry to hear your friend isn’t doing well. I know when I ended up in hospital for shortness of breath they had to do extra dialysis to get the fluid off . Are they doing enough dialysis on your friend?

I don’t have answer for you but I will lift you both up in prayers .

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Bassetmommer

You are an admiral friend. Stay hopeful

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Darlenia

I feel for you being in this situation. My only advice is to simply stay "present". Love on him, offer encouragement...do whatever you need to stabilize the wellbeing of both of you. But, above all, keep a tight hold on your thoughts. Often, our supercomputer brain runs wild, leaping ahead with all kinds of sad scenarios that may never happen - we suffer needlessly. (I think some say that over 80% of our worries never happen.) Always remember that yesterday is gone, tomorrow isn't promised. But you have today! It's a gift. Do your best to live in the moment - remember, you and he are here right now. Seek a little something that gives both of you peace today. That's all that matters. Let tomorrow take care of itself. Sending many hugs your way.

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Escabeche in reply toDarlenia

That’s wonderful Darlenia. What a treasure you are here.

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PDcaretaker in reply toDarlenia

I second your thoughts. Could not have said it better.

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