So sad

[Frankie24]

Today I lost my first friend at dialysis. He was a charming gentleman who always made me laugh. We engaged in friendly conversations before and after dialysis. He came in slumped in his wheelchair not wanting to talk. I found out later that he died on his way home from dialysis. This makes me sad and frustrated. I have been on dialysis for five years. I have had one stroke and many other health crises like many others I am sure. I am sixty two year old female and have a thirty year old son. I am the only parent he has left . I am not afraid of dying but of leaving him with no one in his life. I have said many prayers for my friend who died but this has left me shaken as no one is promised tomorrow but I especially feel more vulnerable with this chronic illness. Thanks for letting me vent.

[Bassetmommer]

So sorry for the loss of your friend. Keep fighting for you son and yourself.

[Darlenia]

I so feel for you. Life is so unfair, so precious, and so short. May the memories of your friend bring comfort and peace. And may your spirits find each other when that time comes. As Bassetmommer said, keep on keeping on - for your son and for yourself. The sun will shine again!

[Frankie24 in reply to Darlenia]

Thank you for your kind and hopeful words ❤️

[SN23]

Very sorry for your loss. Yes as others have said keep striving on. Also do look at groups like the Natural Kidney Journey on FB for kidney friendly lifestyle changes and diet ideas (great recipes too). There are many in that group doing dialysis and some have benefitted from the changes in diet etc too.

And as I mentioned elsewhere I also hope other alternatives such as the artificial kidney project that can be a potential solution find the funding to move forward🙏

Once again my very best to you and your son🙏

[Frankie24 in reply to SN23]

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[rabbit01]

So sorry to hear this. Kidney disease is absolutely awful and the treatment is so hard on the human body. I have been on dialysis for three-years. I started on my 53rd birthday.

[Frankie24]

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[Imaanforever]

I’ll remember you in my prayers Frankie24. 🙏🏾

[Frankie24 in reply to Imaanforever]

Thank you ❤️

[Ziggydoodah]

I am so sorry to hear this Frankie. I totally get it. I have only been on dialysis since May. However it has shocked me how close I have got to some of my fellow dialysis patients. One man took me under his wing and guided me through everything. He is in his 80s and sharp as anything but in recent weeks I have seen a big decline in him physically. It is very worrying and i appreciate how upset you are over your friend. Unfortunately I have no advice. Its like everything associated with this disease, you just have to soldier on. You are still young, make sure you are doing everything you can regarding lifestyle choices etc. Also remember, you are grieving the loss of someone, who has been part of your day to day life. When something like this happens, we do tend to question everything, including our own immortality. You will get through this and hopefully start getting some good days. Keep going my friend. We are here for you x

[Frankie24 in reply to Ziggydoodah]

Thank you for your very kind and wisdom filled comments ❤️

[lovemesomeflowers]

So sorry for the loss of your friend.

[horsie63]

My condolences, it's never easy to lose a friend or a loved one. Please take some time for you to help heal.

[Blackmidnight]

Sorry for your loss. Prayers.

[RonZone]

I have a couple of short thoughts on this topic. I think one of the most important things that we can do, while dealing with what we have to do to deal with kidney disease, is to BE that kind of friend to others whenever possible. It's not always easy to stop what you are doing and offer a word of comfort, or knowledge, or experience to someone. But truth be known, when we do, WE benefit from it as much as the person we're doing it for. Does that seem a tad selfish. Well maybe, but not really. It's mutually beneficial for both from what I can tell. I don't think we would experience the sadness that we do when we lose a friend if they had not caused benefit to our lives, and if we did not cause them benefit in their lives. We can't heal each other, but by darn we can sure offer friendship and actually care for each other. That's priceless and is a gift we do take with us when we go, I do believe. And it's a gift we can leave behind as well. So you should be very proud that you had that friendship. BOTH of you benefited from it and can find peace within that sharing. So keep sharing Frankie!

[Frankie24 in reply to RonZone]

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[Beachgirl32]

I’m sorry to hear this just remember A person that departs from this earth never truly leaves, for they are still alive in our hearts, and through our memories, they live on. My condolences share some of the good memories about him wit the other dialysis patients or nurses to keep him in Your heart

[Frankie24 in reply to Beachgirl32]

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[weetziegrl]

So sorry to hear this. It is so hard to lose people we care about. All we can do is keep fighting, enjoying the little things as much as we can. Sending love your way. We are in this together, you are not alone.

[Frankie24 in reply to weetziegrl]

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[HipHopQueen]

I'm sorry to hear this Frankie. I am an only child so I worry about leaving my parents alone. I pray for comfort for you in the loss of your friend. I hope you can focus on the good conversations you had with your friend.

[Frankie24 in reply to HipHopQueen]

Thank you❤️

[Petsurvivor]

I’m so sorry for your loss. I have seen loss of my fellow dialysis patients and it is very heartbreaking. I’ll keep you all in my thoughts ✨✨✨💕

[Frankie24 in reply to Petsurvivor]

I am sorry for you, it is so difficult. It reminds us of our own mortality as well.