I’m sorry to post so frequently!
My growth scan showed my baby is looking quite big estimated 5 lbs 11oz at 33 weeks and 6 days. She has had a huge growth spurt on her chart! Tummy measuring over. 96% on centile chart which sonographer said is the biggest indicator of a bigger sized baby.
My grown up son was only on 7% percent centile chart but my daughter was 75% centile chart.
I had a very difficult birth with my daughter due mainly to do with her hand was behind her head and I had an awful tear from it that wasn’t far from my bum. My daughters heartbeat dropped during the pushing stage as I was struggling to get her out and was blamed by the midwife for not pushing properly when I was doing my best. the stitches were horrendous and I was in agony whilst my stitches were being done but midwife used as a show and tell to a junior midwife. I went into huge shock and it was my mum who put blankets over me as I was shaking and the midwife hadn’t even noticed. My daughter got so distressed she popped inside me and cried for an hour after birth. It took us 7 years to conceive her and it should’ve been a wonderful moment. It took me a year to repair from the tear - I was close having surgery as it was that bad but had physio which helped then Covid happened. I did make a formal complaint and it was of such serious nature the maternity manager came to my house to discuss she did apologise for such bad care ( this is before Covid) I wanted to save another lady having a bad experience like mine. To this day we are both still traumatised.. I know a lady posted about C sections and some people think natural birth is better in terms of recovery in my daughters case not so! Every birth comes with risks.
Anyway after losing our second daughter at 20 weeks pregnant November 2020 I ( had lost birth complications with her due to retained placenta and haemorrhage and had a blood transfusion due to dropping iron levels)and 2 earlier miscarriages we are 35 weeks pregnant tomorrow.
This is very wanted and special baby. I am concerned by my previous births and the size of my baby. Also I have had 3 previous endo surgeries which I have scar tissue on the outside of my uterus and believe me the scar tissue hurts more in labour. I live an hours drive away from my local hospital and my births are very quick 6 hours with my son (no pain relief or complications) Francescas was 5 and a half hours and Amelias was 5 hours. I want to have sufficient pain relief as none of the pain relief I’ve had with my girls has touched the sides with them ( the endo scar pain is horrendous in labour) I want an epidural ( never had time to get one with my girls not enough time !) but living so far away and sorting out childcare for our toddler might mean I don’t get there in time for one. I like the idea of it being organised and knowing when it’ll happen. This is how I would want to choose it to be.
The midwife says it’s a women’s right to decide how she chooses to birth her child and they will accommodate their wishes. They want to support the mum to be. She says I would have to discuss this further with a consultant as she can’t authorise it.
Is she right that I can request an induction on non medical grounds? Has anyone had any success with doing this? Xx
I would check the birthrights website as they have a lot of information on what you have a right on regarding pregnancy and birth. 
Hey lovely,
I have no experience with this type of situation but I think when it comes to birth, you have the right to choose how you want your baby to be born. Some consultants are more understanding then others but I think if you plead your case strongly enough, you should be able to get what you want especially as baby is measuring on the bigger side. A friend of mine was induced due to baby’s size but as it was non-urgent, she did have to wait for a space and that took 3 or 4 days.
I’m so sorry to hear about your birth experience with Francesca. It does sound like unfortunately you had an awful midwife! I was induced with Phoebe due to reduced movements and despite being back to back my labour experience was a positive one and I do think a huge part of that was how amazing the midwife was. Can you ask your midwife to put a note on your birth plan that you’ve had a previous traumatic birth and a bad experience with poor care as well so however is with you for your birth this time really understands what you’ve been through x
Thank you.
I did have a dreadful midwife and the care was poor with Francescas birth, Luckily I had my husband and mum with me ( my mum joined us once I’d had Francesca) she was extremely reprimanded for it. I hope she has learnt from it!
My midwife said I can discuss a birth plan with a consultant if I want to go down induction route even with Francesca I never had a midwife do a birth plan. They told me they don’t do them anymore. I had a birth plan with my son.
I’ve had really good maternity care throughout this pregnancy can’t fault the midwives drs or health assistants they have been very supportive and have accommodated me with extra scans etc to put my mind at ease. I’m hoping they can agree this with me as it would make things so much easier! The midwife did say it was the women’s choice on how they choose to birth their child and that consultants usually agree with whatever mum feels most comfortable with . They say these things but is it as easy as they make out to be 😂😟 it’s the same hospital so in theory they know my history but I will write notes and remind them 😏
How many weeks are you now? Im 35 weeks pregnant tomorrow it is going very quickly. We sorted through Francescas baby clothes yesterday ( 3 bin bags worth 😱🙈) and now we know what we are short as Francesca was a summer baby but Elizas a winter baby! Got a double buggy in the sales ( but I won’t have it built until Eliza us here safely) after Amelia I’ve been funny about getting things. How are things your end? I hope all is going smoothly Xx
I really hope you get a lovely consultant and are able to have the birth you want 🥰 35 weeks isn’t long to go! Hope you’re otherwise feeling ok.
Almost 26 weeks now! We found out we are having a boy this time 💙 I’m in that nice bit now where I’ve got energy back and not feeling sick so trying to enjoy it whilst it lasts!x
Ooh the the second trimester blissful 😍congratulations on your son how lovely to have one of each 🥰 most of the consultants there are nice . I’ve seen most of them with my gynae and fertility issues! 😂🙈there was only one I didn’t like at EPU when I had my last miscarriage who asked why I was crying and told me to be grateful to have any children it was also my first time back to the hospital since Amelia 🥲 ( bearing in mind partners weren’t allowed in at that time) Trying to organise everything getting there now slowly! Going to be totally different having a baby with a toddler 😬 trying to cook up lots of meals as we have Francesca to consider! I remember us just eating toast when Francesca was a newborn baby 😂 Francesca has such a delicate tummy I have to be careful what I feed her no processed food it’s not good for anyone really. How old is Phoebe now? Francesca will be 3 this June crazy how fast it’s gone! They don’t stay babies for long! She has major tantrums it’s funny my son hardly threw a wobbler 😂 they are so very different! Enjoy the second trimester 😁 Xx
God he sounds like a complete asshat! I never understand people who say stuff like that 🤯
Phoebe is 15 months so will be 18/19 months when new baby arrives depending on when he makes an appearance 🥰 She’s already having tantrums, got the foot stamping down to a tee 😂 xx