I had my little one 8 weeks ago. My husband has been fully supportive and helping out a lot with chores and baby care. However, I feel like we have not been close or don’t have much grown up time. Maybe hormonal of me or maybe he’s respecting the fact that my body is still healing (I had a c section). I’m not talking about sex alone but cuddles and kisses, grown up talks ... he doesn’t seem to initiate them as he used to. We take shifts at night sleeping and looking after the little one so doesn’t help that we don’t sleep in the same bed. As the result as well as the stress and exhaustion, i feel quite lonely and sometimes short tempered towards him which in turn doesn’t help us getting close. So I’m physically and emotionally drained.
How have you found your relationship changed after childbirth? Particularly for those first time mums? And if yours has improved after a period of time, how long did things take to settle and get into a new routine?