Hello all, I am almost 12 weeks pregnant, the first scan is this Friday! Though this pregnancy was unplanned, I am pleased and excited now. My boyfriend's initial reaction was shock and unhappiness, he didn't feel he was ready for the commitment… Though we have been together for five years. I accept that everyone processes shock differently and it is important not to be too judgemental at this stage. The boyfriend did encourage us to keep the baby and raise him/her (we had talked about adoption). However, when I spoke to him last night about when he would need to give notice for paternity leave. He asked if he HAD to take the leave. This left me a little bemused as I sort of expected a minimum of a weeks worth of support when the baby was born. I asked him why he wouldn't want to take the paternity leave and he said that he had hoped that he would be able to keep the baby a secret from work as he was worried about judgements. I'm just a little stunned… When is he going to realise this pregnancy is not ALL about him?! It has left me feeling really down, it doesn't bode well for the future as I feel he is putting himself in a position whereby he can make an easy exit when he feels the need… What do you guys think? Honesty appreciated!