Good afternoon and warm or coolish greetings to "YOU" all. Yesterday I was reminded of a lesson I learned long ago and should make a greater effort to remember and pay attention to.
Just because "YOU" have detailed plans to do something does not mean that "YOU" will be able to do it. Not coo,l I know but that is our reality, in this, our ms life. Accept this, do not be angry at yourself, or resent your condition.
It just "IS" my friend, it just "IS" no need for recrimination or anger, it just "IS" Are "YOU" ok now? Are "YOU" starting to understand, or just stopping, thinking and saying to yourself, "hey it is okay I am at ease with this situation" The more "YOU" fight and battle the harder "YOU"will make it for yourself. Just slow down, stop and think of another way to do it, or maybe give it a few hours, recuperate and try again with a fresh outlook.
There is truly no need to make your ms life difficult. It does it easily enough all by itself.
Do "YOU" remember long ago I talked to "YOU" about the two boxes? Here it is again, on a piece of paper draw a square, maybe ten by ten. Any measurement is okay it does not matter. Now label that square them. Spouse, child, significant other, insignificant other, your choice. Now in the middle of that box draw a much smaller box. Label that box ME, insert your name. That box is us With the big box you can call the sides anything "YOU" like just make the opposite side of the box opposite. Hot-cold whatever "YOU" get the picture. Now the smaller box in the middle moves. Sometimes "YOU" can do hot but not cold, sometimes the opposite, but "WE" all have a smaller box than a non-ms person. That is the way that it is. It is not good or bad. I will not judge it, it just is, frustrating, yes. Embarrassing, yes. Unfair, not for me to say. All sorts of words that "YOU" can think of, but it all boils down to two words, four letters, IT IS, No more no less, we are human, this is a human condition. It is just IS and the sooner that "YOU" come to terms with that the less stressful your life will be. I am not saying to give in and go sit in the corner. I still say manege your ms, if "YOU" must, fight your ms. Just accept that we all have it and make the absolute best of it, every day with every decision that "YOU" make. This really is a "DOABLE" illness and we all have it because we "CAN DO ms"
Royce
Believe in you as I believe in you, we really can get through this together
