Today the 47th anniversary of my wife and I. So today I am thankful that she has stuck with me thru the good times and the bad times and believe me I have put her thru some bad times thru the years. I won't go into details because honestly I'm not proud of a lot of things I've put her thru over the years. I get upset with her a lot of times when she says and does things about my ms that I don't really think is necessary but when I think of the things she's put up with I feel pretty small.
So I'm here to tell everyone how blessed to have a woman who stuck with me till I found out that without God I would never make it. Since I gave my life to Jesus Christ she has been not only my biggest supporter but also my best friend. So today I wish her a happy 47th anniversary and though we'll never live to see 47 more I pray that we have many more to come.
Love to you all and God bless.
Donnie
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Donnie, how happy I am that you have a great marriage and a great wife - and most of all, that you recognize it and appreciate her! Blessings to you both!
Doubled51 47 years, congratulations, may God bless you both. May your anniversary be a reflection of beautiful memories from your special day, the beginning of your journey together. May the dreams you share together be just the beginning of many more to come. Happy anniversary, blessings Jimeka 💐 🦋 🌈 🏅The medal is for your wife!
jimeka thank you. Believe me she deserves a lot of medals for putting up with me. Especially thru the old days.
God bless
Donnie
Happy Anniversary! I think I know a bit about how you feel @Doubled51. I’ve certainly behaved badly to my wife. I used to be a very calm easy going guy. Since MS I have mood swings that I’m even aware of while I’m behaving badly, but I can’t seem to stop myself. Now I just have to disengage, or not engage at all, and just walk away to calm myself before I loose my cool. I know that walking away is hurtful to my wife even though I tell her I’m not walking away from her because I don’t love her or I’m mad at her, that I love her and I don’t want to leave her. I know she understands, but I also know it’s hurtful to her when I walk away. I am upset with myself for hurting her feelings and I don’t feel good about myself afterwards. MS really sucks. It not only affects me, but my wife and family too. I tell them not to take my bad behavior personally, but I know it still hurts their feelings. I am taking med’s to help mitigate my mood swings, which has helped somewhat.
Hidden thank you. I also am guilty of all these things. I gate confrontation especially with someone I love. I'm a very easy going laid back person normally but since MS my fuse has shortened it greatly. But I'm using the just walk away theory as much as possible. At least it avoids a heated confrontation. As men we think we are always right. But I know I'm not always right but surprise surprise sometimes I am. I tell my wife to please sometimes just give me a break and just agree with something. But with the live of God and each other we will make it.
ssdw1958 thank you. My or instructor tells me all the time. Do that exercise 30 times and smile while you are doing it.. Haha. I try but it doesn't always work. Haha.
Happy, Happy Anniversary Donnie, to you and your Bride.. I'm so glad for you both that you have opened the door for the Lord's Blessings into your lives. As to what you say about she put up with your ways earlier in life, it's somewhat of a 2-way street. You recognize that she loved you through it all and you love her even more for that. That's what those vows are all about. Blessings that you have many more wonderful years together. Lynn
CalfeeChick thanks Lynn. Believe me she put up with a lot the first several years. My sister in law who has dedicated her life to gospel singing was speaking to a church one night telling how God can change lives. She told tmem that her brother in law used to be a Wildman but now that since he gave his life to God he was an humble little lamb. That was a very special blessing to me that meant that she could see how my life had changed so hopefully the world could also see.
I'm late reading this, Doubled51 . But what a great testimony! Congratulations to both you and your wife! Next year is our 40th...looking forward to celebrating our 47th! 💕
Yooper thank you. God already knows I did a lot of stupid bad things that I'm not proud of so if he already knows and he and my wife have forgiven me I have no reason to hide it from anyone else. If it helps someone else see that they can change thru receiving the saving grace of our savior Jesus Christ I'm happy to share the true way to forgiveness and it will change their lives forever. And I truly mean forever in the best neighborhood we can ever dream of. I didn't do anything special except turn my life over to God and he did the rest. And it didn't cost me a dime.
Doubled51, Donnie, it's Fancy1959. Happy anniversary and what a beautiful tribute you paid to your wife. I am humbled by the love that you poured out in this post to your wife. I hope all of us in this community understand how much are spouses and significant others have given us in our times of need. I know I often take mine for granted and hopefully the next time I do I will think of your post and take a deep breath and realize how much my husband has given to me and give him a big hug instead of being negative. Thank you for helping to open my eyes. Happy anniversary!
Fancy1959 I often criticize mine that she doesn't understand my complaints about my MS but then I see the things she does for me a the doting she does even when she reprimans me shows me she understands a lot more than I give her credit for And then I feel bad for my doubt. I am trying to listen more and talk less. I try not to react so foolishly but a lot of times I still do. She put up with a whole lot over the last 47 years so I've got to learn to put up with a little more criticism. I give God all the praise and glory for changing my life from who I was and for giving her the determination to put up with me thru it all.
@Doubled51 I am late reading this, but wish you and your wife every blessing on your 47th Anniversary!! 💝 That’s alotta years!!
How beautiful that you found God and rejuvenated your marriage at the same time. You’re also a witness to your faith, it’s transfmative power, and the importance of a marital commitment to everyone in your family, and beyond. Well done! 😀
@nomNom_De_Plume I found my wife in 1970. Though my dad was a Baptist minister all my life i never lived the life he wanted for me. in fact I did everything I could to do the opposite. I was the sinner the devil dreams about. Til a day in 2002 I hit bottom and when you hit the bottom there's no where to look but up. And God was waiting with him great big long to pull me up from the he I was in. He lifted me out cleaned me up and gave a life I never deserved and a gift of eternal life thru Jesus Christ and in the process the husband my wife said she always knew was in there. I will always thank him. I give him all the praise and glory for changing my life for ever and ever as in forever. How beautiful heaven will be.
Doubled51 Hey, Donnie, I think your Dad would be very proud. In fact, I am sure he is smiling down on you as we "speak." 😀
Your story reminds me so much of St. Augustine of Hippo who had a "rough" beginning too and, for whom, his mother, St. Monica, prayed incessantly, in hopes that he would one day be converted. He's one of my favorites. One of his quotes, sounds so similar to your words above, that I could almost hear it "echo!" 😀 I had to look it up to be sure I was quoting correctly! ...
He said, “Late have I loved you, O Beauty ever ancient, ever new, late have I loved you! You were within me, but I was outside, and it was there that I searched for you. In my unloveliness I plunged into the lovely things which you created. You were with me, but I was not with you. Created things kept me from you; yet if they had not been in you they would have not been at all. You called, you shouted, and you broke through my deafness. You flashed, you shone, and you dispelled my blindness. You breathed your fragrance on me; I drew in breath and now I pant for you. I have tasted you, now I hunger and thirst for more. You touched me, and I burned for your peace.”
God's love is transformational, isn't it?!! 😀 None of us deserves it--neither the good nor the "bad." You are so right that He deserves all of the praise, honor, and glory because, without Him, we all are nothing.
How beautiful that your wife said that she always knew that this "new man" was inside of you. 💕It is a very beautiful journey that you share. Congratulations again on your Anniversary. Wishing both of you every blessing!! 👫✨
@Nom_De_Plume thanks Lisa. That was a beautiful story. I now God did it all and I thank him everyday for rescuing me from a devils hell. God is good all the time.
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