Anger

[Sushi2345]

Question : If I’m angry at somebody and obsessing over this and ruminating in my head none stop , How can I get over the thought about being angry at them ?

Usually I always send an email to the person to voice my opinion as a compulsion to release it and get it off my chest to feel better . Is this clearly OCD or is this clearly voicing myself ? Sometimes it has worked in the past and sometimes not. I can’t help myself at times and always look for an easy fast solution to get over the anger and obsession.

Any other way can I do this ?

Thanks 🙏

[SCC1]

Hi. One way is to write a letter (on paper) to the person you are angry at but not actually send them/show them the letter. You can write anything you would like "to" them. You can "tell" them how you feel, what made you angry, anything. You would get all your feelings down on paper, and even though you wouldn't send it or show it to the person, you would feel better that you got your feelings out.

Since there would possibly be hurtful words in your letter, you can tear it up or throw it away after writing it. That way you will have freed yourself of your anger or other emotion, and not have to share it with that person.

I have a ton of anger that I don't let go of, and I keep obsessing over it too. Maybe I should follow my own advice!

[Hershy49]

Hi Sushi2345,

If you are officially diagnosed with Ocd in my thought from an individual with ocd herself this world br considered reassurance seeking, but I am not a therapist. Are you in Ocd treatment presently?

[SCC1 in reply to Hershy49]

I think he's just asking a question.

[Nothing_but_books]

Just my opinion, worth no more than that.

If it's a compulsion, and you're ruminating, you've answered your own question, that's why you're doing it.

and...

You do have a voice. You can choose to be heard.

[lml885]

I have the same issue. I’m working on underrating that I am not able to change the past and by obsessing and not focusing on the moment I’m distracting myself and may even behave the same way that caused some of my problems that I’m ruminating about! I feel like meditation helps this as well as emotional purging, whether Chinese medicine or EFT or yoga. Compulsive confessing can be OCD. I know the feeling to confess everything can turn people off. DBT therapy could be helpful for this.

[Phoenyx]

Hi there. If you are obsessing over the thought of this person and how you feel about him/her- it’s ocd. Now it’s up to you what you choose to do.