burden

[pinkpenguins5]

Anyone else feel like they're "too much" for their partner? or like they are a burden to them with all of their mental struggles?

[nyv33]

I think everyone with ocd feels like this and not just with their partner

[Weeping_Willow]

Absolutely. Right now my OCD is SO bad and I came to spend the Spring-Autumn with my parents in their 80s and ended up having to go to my sisters to give them a break.

Having an awful time but so much on them which is too much for them at this time.

Heading back home to the States but as I am so bad am nervous about transferring contamination back to there whereas normally a slight splash in the shower or walking into my house with my shoes on from the plane would not mean as much but this time everything is bothering me and i can't let the tiniest thing go. I would have gone home months ago if I wasn't so terrified. And then when I get there it is my partner who will be helping me.

Hopefully I will be able to feel better there eventually and will also have access to help again as needed.

It is really hard to see those you love affected and you try to snap out of it because you see it is too much for them, but it is something that is hard to control.

I hate OCD.

[pinkpenguins5 in reply to Weeping_Willow]

I’m so sorry you feel like this I really do hope it gets better . And yes OCD does suck

[Weeping_Willow in reply to pinkpenguins5]

Thank you.

[blueturtle28 in reply to Weeping_Willow]

Hi, I have ocd and it is a monster that steals our life ! I understand . I hope you have the fight in you to be a winner . Are you in ocd therapy? Have you connected with the IOCDF?(That is International ocd Foundation.) Nothing about ocd is easy. Hope you get help :0)

[Weeping_Willow in reply to blueturtle28]

Thank you for your kind words.

I am not in my own country right now and with Covid it has been difficult to get treatment too.

I have had OCD for over 30 years and sometimes have been almost cured and other times been bad, but I think this is the worse I have been.

I really don't want to go back on meds if i can help it but will be seeking treatment again when I get home. It is just getting there that is proving difficult and stressful and I fear that if I feel my home gets contaminated then I will be in serious distress and not sure what i will do.

I have never done therapy, just meds as this is usually enough to stabilise me to be able to make strides, but haven't had a great quality of life since late 90s and I know that is too long. Fear exposure therapy as although I have a fear of contamination, with me it isn't because I fear germs or feel something bad is going to happen. It is almost a pure phobia of the secretions from other people.

[blueturtle28 in reply to Weeping_Willow]

Once you return to your home country, I hope the ocd will quiet down . This disorder has been misunderstood for so long. We are strong folks and can move forward! Take care.

[BlackOnyx]

Yes. He lets me know im not but I know when I was jut out of the hospital I was stressful for him to be around which made the feeling even more real.

[Carbon21]

I can tell you as someone from the other side of this that you are not a burden. Your family members get mad at the OCD, not you. As for me, I feel bad for what my DD is going through. Do I get stressed, frustrated.. yes. Ever wish she’d leave, no way. Unless someone is flat out asking you to go, forgive them for their frustration. It’s hard on everyone but not your fault. Just keep fighting and showing them you want to get better, and you will.