Help.

[Sophie30x]

When will these compulsions end! And the dread in my stomach 😩 I’m also seeking reassurance I know. It’s god damn hard this. Just been prescribed medication so hoping it helps. I also have confession OCD and have to tell my gf everything I’m thinking which is extremely hard for her. Can anyone help?! I know if I tell her I’m back at square one.

[Ariadnee]

Hello! I am sorry for your anguish... I have felt this pain too. Medication will definitely help you relieve stress and give you the chance to focus on your behaviour. Please do not tell your gf your thoughts. Stay with your stress, feel it, after a while it gets better. Do something else. Have a bath, go for a walk, read a book, watch a funny video. You can do this! Please do not give in to more complusions. I feel you. Please try. Please.

[Sophie30x in reply to Ariadnee]

Thankyou very much for that. I needed it. ❤️ xx

[Ariadnee in reply to Sophie30x]

Take care! We are stronger than our OCD! Much love and support! ❤️🙏🏻☺️

[Sophie30x in reply to Ariadnee]

We sure are! All the best to you too ❤️

[Fargo-Guy in reply to Ariadnee]

What med do you take. There are so many. None I taken have worked well for my counting and touching ocd disorder.

[Ariadnee in reply to Fargo-Guy]

Personally, I used to take zoloft. It helped me...

[Sophie30x in reply to Ariadnee]

Yes same. Only on day 3 not much change as of yet.

[Ariadnee in reply to Sophie30x]

I know... You have to be patient. It usually takes 1-3 weeks to work... Stay strong!!! xox

[Sophie30x in reply to Ariadnee]

Thankyou 😘

[DeathtoOCD in reply to Sophie30x]

It can take a while, but be patient, generally it can take up to a month before it can really take effect, and if it doesn't work, try another medication, it really sucks but sometimes it take time.

[Sophie30x in reply to Ariadnee]

Sertraline

[kellikaye]

Medication will definitely help. OCD is hard so be proud of yourself for seeking help. Continuing the compulsions will only keep the cycle going. Try and resist them as they reinforce your fears and anxiety. I would look for a therapist too. They can help you with ERP for this topic and any others you have. Check out NOCD app. They take insurance! And are affordable for specialists. Wishing you the best.

[Sophie30x in reply to kellikaye]

Hi, I am awaiting a therapist at the moment. Thankyou so much for your advice I really appreciate your help. I will certainly have a look at NOCP ☺️ Wish you all the best too. Xx

[Carbon21 in reply to kellikaye]

I just signed my daughter for NOCD, I’m happy you recommended. Please tell me this is a good start. She’s begging for help and I refuse in patient until we’ve tried everything. I’m praying she gets the “right “ therapist, I know she can do this (ERP)

[kellikaye in reply to Carbon21]

I’ll let you know how it goes for me. I start in September but I follow other accounts on IG and it’s really helping them.

[DeathtoOCD]

If you can resist even a little bit that will help, but you must learn to fight the compulsions, you said you are waiting to see someone, make sure they know OCD, because it is quite different from other anexity disorders, it's hard, but you can beat I hope you find the right person, good luck, do your best to handle the aniexty anf try not to tell her as much or confess as much, that would be a start.

[Sophie30x in reply to DeathtoOCD]

Thankyou very much. So far so good. It’s the guilt I feel more than anything when she has no idea. It almost feels like I’ve cheated on her for thinking these things.. it’s absolutely horrendous x

[DeathtoOCD in reply to Sophie30x]

I have heard of that being a really common thing with confession OCD. Along the lines of I though of someone else and not of her, I know it is hard but remember you are not your OCD, and are though go all over the place, and they are not you, as much as it feels like it. Find a therapist that deals with OCD is the best way, they will give you the skills you need to find what is you, and what is your OCD.

[Sophie30x in reply to DeathtoOCD]

Thankyou for that. Yeah I’m finding it extremely hard. The guilt I feel from what I’m thinking and she has no idea. I can’t stand it. These thoughts are bullshit and the images are too it really knows how to play me x

[3BirdLover]

Confession OCD is one of the worst compulsions that I have had....it is absolutely horrible. What I didn't know when I was in this state, is the more you give in to the compulsion of confessing, the worse the compulsion gets. You may feel that it isn't enough and you get to telling and confessing every little thing. This is why it is extremely important to stop doing it.

For me, just telling myself "OK, for me to get better, I need to NOT give into this....it's my OCD harassing me... it's not real". As someone else mentioned...take a walk, get your head and brain busy on something else. Believe me, I know it is easy to say this, and is very hard to do, but the more you do this, the more you will discover, your brain will settle down and it will become less urgent.

Try calling a friend to just chat (but don't compulse!!!). Getting engaged with someone in a discussion also was effective for me. Good luck.

Get help though....no matter what else...you need help.

[Sophie30x in reply to 3BirdLover]

Thankyou for that, I’ve already given in and told her something today about my past she didn’t even need to know. The anxiety and guilt I feel is absolutely horrific and I can’t cope with it any longer. I’m on day 6 of setraline still no improvement. The burning in my body and face and the flip of the stomach when I look at her and talk to her makes it worse coz she has no idea and she’s there laughing away at something and I’m feeling this way. It’s just too much.

[3BirdLover in reply to Sophie30x]

Remember that we are not perfect and we will sometimes fail, but that is OK...we will do better next time

Is it things you feel guilty about that you are confessing? That was the case with me. My mind went back YEARS AND YEARS and drug up stuff that I had a burning urge I had to confess. Most of it was stuff I had already "dealt with" (as much as I could), but all of a sudden it came all rushing back again. It helped me to remember I am a Christian and God forgives all things. I don't know what your situation is, but that gives me a tremendous amount of peace.

It will take time for the meds to work. Sometimes weeks. I tell you that not to discourage you, but to help you know to just hang on and give it time. The meds along with practicing resistance in compulsing is the key.

If in a good amount of time you are not feeling any better, let your therapist know. There are so many different meds to try. One of them will work for you!!!

[Sophie30x in reply to 3BirdLover]

Oh yes but mine is with past relationships or people I’ve been with. Have to tell her things that pop into my mind or my anxiety is over the roof. Thankyou so much! I hope you’re ok x

[MothFir in reply to Sophie30x]

I think many of the OCD meds take weeks before you notice a difference. The last time I had my fluoxetine prescription increased it was probably 4 to 6 weeks before I finally noticed my thoughts calming down. Like 3BirdLover said, that's not meant to discourage you but to let you know it's way too soon to know if it works for you or not.

Hang on and do the best you can to resist the compulsions. It's easier if you put as much space as you can between what you know is reality and what you know (deep down) are obsessions. If you know you love your partner, and that your partner does not think you have done anything wrong, THAT is the reality. Everything your OCD tells you is garbage. It is annoying, it is a bully, and it is relentless, but it is ALL FAKE, just as surely as if you were getting weird thoughts that grass really tastes like ice cream. The only reason it has power over us is because, in the moment, the thoughts FEEL real, they hit us where we're vulnerable, and they fill us with anxiety that eats us alive. But those feelings don't make the content any more real.

So remember that confessing things to your partner does not really accomplish your goal of maintaining a good relationship with her. It sounds like you already know this on some level ("I’ve already given in and told her something today about my past she didn’t even need to know.") Don't think of your confessions as a meaningful act of communication, because they are not. They are only a ritual that relieves your anxiety briefly while perpetuating a miserable cycle. You might not feel like you can tolerate the possibility that you have somehow betrayed your partner -- but you don't have to. Instead, you have to tolerate the horrible FEELING that you have betrayed your partner. That is a different thing, and it is easier to tolerate because YOU KNOW it's not really real.

I hope you feel better soon!

[Sophie30x in reply to MothFir]

Thankyou so so much for your help. You’ve made me feel so much better and every time I feel the need to tell her something that’ll upset her but make me feel better I’ll think of what you’ve said. It’s so selfish of me but it’s so hard too! Really appreciate it ❤️

[newbie56]

Wow, i myself have ocd (off & on meds for many years)

But my son (age 57) has ocd & the worse health anxiety with the constant need to "confess" ...and he refuses medication.

At least i understand why. He's a wonderful son otherwise.

My prayers for all those who suffer with ocd.

Agape

[Sophie30x in reply to newbie56]

I do understand why people would refuse. But it definitely helps! I hope your son is ok and can manage. Sending my love x

[newbie56]

Thank you so much, Sophie.