There was this girl. I'll call her Jessica (not her real name). I liked Jessica and I thought she liked me back. So I told her. She did not. Next day I'm turning things over in my head and, since she said she thought we should be friends "for now" I sent fishing text messages to see if she was interested in me, but didn't want a relationship or wasn't interested. Eventually she texts me back and tells me I'm making her anxious. So I stop. But I continued to text her another time. Eventually we decided it was best not to text. So she blocked me.
I ended up in the hospital, felt lonely, so I texted Jessica. No response. Figuring she had blocked me, I texted her friend I was in the hospital in hopes that her friend would tell her. And she did. So I start texting Jessica again. I apologize for texting her so much. One night we're texting each other and the conversation turns to Snapchat. She adds me or says to add her. And we snap a bit.
I get out of the hospital, to avoid sending the wrong message she deletes me from Snapchat. And things are kind of awkward at first. But we become friendly again.
I should have learned my lesson. There are still two more parts.
Her friend joins the community. Her friend starts expressing what I interpret as interest. Things were OK until her friend left and we started texting. I'll call her friend Ashley.
So Ashley and I start texting. Same thing. I send too many texts and apologize for sending so many texts. She sends me a I feign I don't know what that is and then she says she meanf to send a smiley. So I look up IPhone keyboard and see that smiley is in a different area than winky. So I think may be that was intentional. I text some more (text apologizing, asking if I should stop.) She says no. Then I say we shouldn't be friends, she asks why, and I say (in a very weird awkward way) because we don't feel the same way.
Ashley says she's not interested but still wants to be friends. So I say I do. Then I don't. So I say that. Then she says she doesn't like all the back and forth. So I apologize seven more times. Then text Jessica who knows about my feelings for Ashley and Jessica says she can't deal with me. So I apologize. Sometime later Ashley texts back saying she read my overall apology but she doesn't feel comfortable responding.
So I give it a week and text Ashley to make sure everything's OK. No response. So the next night I go, hoping to see her. And I do and she tells her friend some thing and looks over nervously. I say bye to the people there, no response.
I think the week before I waited outside in hopes of running into her so I could talk to her. I saw her and she hugged me and said she would text me back.
So the next day I text Ashley re-requesting a previous request I made not to talk about what happened (with people in that community). She doesn't answer so I say "just tell me that and I'll buzz off" (getting the sense that I'm annoying her, figuring if she has told anybody I just will avoid. Then I go to sleep. I wake up and fear that I've now crossed the threshold of harassment and Will end up in jail so I say I'm sorry for being an asshole and harassing you.
I hang out with a friend and tell her what happened and we talk about it. And I'm dreading seeing Ashley so I ask if Ashley will be there on a certain day. And she says yes. And I'm expected to be there. So I wait. And wait. And wait. Day before I friend Ashley and msg her on Facebook. Then I unfriend her. Then I refriend her worried she won't see my message if I don't have her as a friend.
Now I'm scared sh*tless to go. So I stay home. And for like a month I stay home. And Then a month later I message her on a different device figuring she blocked me on Facebook. And she threatens to look into filing a restraining order. Says I made her feel unsafe.
At some point way in the future I go back. Ashley isn't there but Jessica is. Jessica leaves. And Then I'm banned.
At this point, for obvious reasons, I'm not friends w anybody in the community. Months after this happened, when I had gone back to the hospital and back to the community afterwards (the ban was a part ban) Jessica texted me saying she was sorry things were how they were.
You would think I'd learned my lesson. No.
So I friended another girl, who I'll call Julia. Julia used to sometimes drive me home and we would talk. And I feel for Julia.
So we text and stuff-pretty much the same thing, I text and then apologize because I'm worried I texted too much. And eventually I make my feelings for her known. She's not looking for a relationship. Once again I try to determine if she has feelings or not. She says she does.
But a month later, I start feeling something more so I hint at/move things in that direction. And She says she's not looking for anything. At this point, based on past history, I decide I should end it. So we end it amicably.
Until I start to miss her. So I add her on SC. She accepts my request. I message her and she's nice, but very short with me. When I say I'm not looking for anything this time, she says she doesn't want to talk. So I say I understand. So I block her to resist the urge to talk. Doing so unfriends her. At that point I feel depressed so I delete SC, unfriending people first so I won't be tempted to log back in.
I contacted her friend a few times over the course of a few months (most recent three days ago). They wanted nothing to do with me and didn't respond.
I don't really leave the house anymore. I don't see a future, a point, anything. It just eats me up inside, all day every day. I feel guilty and sick knowing what I did. I hate myself. There's no moving past.
That's the first time I've told the story in full. I feel like a terrible person.
I originally posted this on reddit, but I think a support group might be a better place than AITA.