worrisome

[blacknblue18]

Married for more than a decade and no hope that I will have child... it gets more and more worrisome as years pass by when everyone has and happy.. even in the own family , siblings and other in law relations starts to have and they get more attention and priority over me.. feel to write more and more with lot of emotion and thoughts that I have but not confident enough to write here everything, to express all my feelings..dont know what to do, to whom to speak.. i am trying speaking to me when my mind doesn't feel good and i dont know how far i can do this and fear about it..emotions are really really high at this time...

[wendyWaz]

Hi there, I understand where you are coming from, feeling out of everything and not part of a normal life. I had my last ivf over 15 years ago, not even any glimpse of a pregnancy.

For me, I've been able to take happiness in being a great aunty to my husbands niece and nephews children, and luckily that they have let me. All be it at a distance.

A horrible distraction was having to deal with both my parents having dementia, but that's another story.

Life is different, and going to be with us childless couples, and we are forced to make our own way in the world.

I had been wondering if to get back in this group and asking if any older members like us are still out there, as it can be hard out there.

It does get easier but it's the having to go through it and deciding what your life will be like without children. Doing things other people can't do because they have children is a good thing, as we don't have same commitments. Going away on breaks on holiday during school term, for instance. Being more spontaneous, though we not!

Navigating a new path is the answer, whatever that may be. I know its hard to be positive but do try to look for small things, and start from there. And talk to your other half, she may be feeling the same way and support each other.

Take care Wendy

[blacknblue18 in reply to wendyWaz]

Thank you wendy for your nice words. Sorry to hear about your mom and dad, i can understand that it hurts even more. keep making up your mind whenever you are not feeling good.