Coping with jealousy

[Namaste9]

Hi everyone, I am new here because I feel like I cannot speak to anyone in real life and I found this amazing community to share my thoughts with. I feel the most horrible person on this planet but it is very difficult for me to cope with feelings when all my friends have just recently had children, my partner has nephews which he is he obsessed about... everywhere I look there are happy families. I just won’t be able to experience it myself and I’m just being told to be happy for other people. How have you dealt with this feeling? Thank you in advance.

[A-long-way-to-go]

Hi, I completely understand what you are feeling. It is incredibly hard trying to be happy when it feels like everyone else is making pregnancy announcements. I try to give myself time to cry and be angry/upset then remind myself it’s my own baby I want not theirs. Hope this is a little helpful and reassuring... you are not alone in feeling that way x

[Vatsalya]

Hi... I can understand how you feel. I have been through the same feelings. You have to allow yourself to grieve for the children you could never have. Allow yourself to feel the pain, the jealousy, the anguish. There is no shame in that...let the tears flow. It will take a long time before you can be happy for other people who have kids. Be kind to yourself and give yourself that time. Sending you lots of love and hugs

[Atti123]

I know exactly how you feel as I am literally going through the same situation. Especially when you hear someone is expecting.. everyone looks to your face and is expecting you to be 'upset' but have to keep a smile on your face. Don't get me wrong.. I am happy for that person who is expecting but I always get that sad sinking feeling that why not me...Its getting harder and harder keeping a smile on my face whenever I hear someone is pregnant.