So depressed and lonely

[Lovesdogs]

Hello everyone. I just signed up for this group and am feeling a little uncomfortable posting this. I am so depressed and feel like I am not even sure if I have many reasons to live. My husband loves me and my adult kids do too but my son lives about 3500 miles away and I only see him once a year and I don't see my daughter very much as she is very busy living her own life. I am so lonely and feel like such a fat old has been. I'm so tired of fighting either depression or anxiety for so many years! Why do I have to be the one struggling all the time? Why does everyone else seem to be young beautiful healthy and so happy all the time?? What is wrong with me that I ended up this way?

[Dolphin14]

Sounds like you miss you life as it used to be. Raising your family, being busy with kids etc.

that all changes and we lose our sense of purpose in life. I've been through this so I get it. We can't turn back the clock and be young and beautiful but we can be happy. We can also be healthy can look the best we can as we age.

I'm curious by your name if you have dogs? They give such a sense of purpose and love to us. I lost mine two years ago and can't seem to get over that loss.

Anyway, we have to reinvent ourselves once those kids grow. While we are trying to figure it out we are so lost it makes sense that we feel alone and sad.

Do you work? Are you happy with your job? Are you otherwise healthy?

I'm still searching for my own answers to this. We just have to find something we can enjoy to take up the tine in our new phase of life.

[lorianxiety in reply to Dolphin14]

Absolutely,im on the last precious years of life and no family ,other than sisters/brothers who are like myself older ,and I live alone,so I have to fill in my time and take up something new to keep me going;at present my tv morning programmes have filled that gap,though I now realise something has to change before deep depression hits me.Everyone needs a passion in life to sustain them and that's whats needed to keep us going.Anxiety and lack of confidence has held me back and losing my cat too this year.,i;I do realise that we all need support and something to care and live for …..hoping you find your passion soon.

[hypercat54]

Who is 'young beautiful healthy and so happy all the time?' No one I know is! That's a completely unrealistic goal. There is no reason why you can't at least be a content older person though. There are benefits to getting older such as caring a lot less what others think of you. You are older and wiser and can put your experiences to good use.

Good health is the most important I have found as I have got older. x

[lorianxiety in reply to hypercat54]

hi,your right .age is just a number,health is the most essential as we age,;beauty comes or shines when we look after our body,mind and soul.!

[Florida1959]

We are not all young and beautiful, I am 60, and beautiful inside, so... tell me 5 great things about yourself, I live on my own, so can relate, take care xxx