A New Year Resolution ?

[gardengnome]

banned words from my vocab next year:

oughta

shoulda

coulda

woulda

The end of a year is always that time when those ideas creep in.

The worst words in the world,

Time for a new vocab.

[ThemysciraDrive]

Ha ha! This really cheered me up, but because it reminded me of Confetti, my favourite Lemonheads song..."he kinda shoulda sorta woulda loved her if he could've".

You're absolutely right though, those words are bad anyway, but toxic when you have depression. They must be sent to the naughty page of the dictionary.

[gardengnome in reply to ThemysciraDrive]

yes but sometimes the words just keep on bouncing round and around till they become like one of those perpetual motion gadgets. I guess old habits need a really big hammer to even make a dent in them

[LizzieM in reply to gardengnome]

Once you recognise an unhelpful thought pattern like this, train yourself to say STOP! every time it pops into your head. And make a concious decision not to allow the thoughts in. It really does help and becomes a way of life. Think of the thoughts as annoying flies and swat em away!

[gardengnome in reply to LizzieM]

I guess my issue is that not only can the thoughts creep in, but then i end up getting cross at having the thought in the first place. Then the whole thing spirals into a hurricane.

I do find that doing practical stuff that will either counter my bad opinions or addresses some of the practical things that i know i need to do is a key thing for me.

I guess it is the emotions that go along with those words is what i really do need to jettison..

[Suzie40]

Made me smile. My counsellor tallies how many times I say 'I should ...' and it always makes me laugh!

[Jeffju]

Mine would be... 'What if'....'Maybe' and , like Lucy, 'should'.

And possibly all of yours too.

Merry Christmas, Julie xx

[Anxietyang]

Ha ha this is so right and I'm gonna join ya in that resolution. I'm my own worst enemy where that's concerned.

[Jamie186]

It sounds as if you watch Judge Judy, like me!!!