Hi everyone, I'm 33 years old, married with 2 kids. I'm queit fit with a good physique. I enjoy intercourse atleast twice a week. I use to get tears on my foreskin now and then. Once healed I'd be fine for a while. But now it's like every time I have intercourse the foreskin gets ripped and inflamed, itchy and burns when washing. Is there something I can get or do you suggest I seek medical advice leading to a circumcision? I'm scared to get it done and lose feeling down there.
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hi firstly you do not loose feeling down there if anything it becomes sensitive I know the thought of having it done ain’t good but it ain’t as bad as you think for me the journey begins when the anaesthetic wears off I am now about 9 or 10 week after you will feel better having it done rather than having phimosis I put up with for a long time until it got really bad I had no choice but do not regret it should of done it a long time ago your call good luck 👍
Is it only happening when you have sex ? personally I think you need to book a visit with your doctor, we all get embarrassed and scared, but to put your mind at rest, I would seek medical advice.
Remember, your doctor has seen everything, so put all the embarrassing thoughts in the back of your head, your issue could be sorted with cream stretching etc, you will not know until you see your doctor.
Sounds like you have a skin problem surely. If you have the cut, you'll still have the skin problem.
just have your sugar levels checked. could be an infection too, you might want to check with a GP.
circumcision is not recommended unless it is for aesthetic reasons at this age. any problems you face should be evaluated by a medical practitioner.
Same happened to me, the skin would tear which was painful until healed but would happen again. I decided on circumcision which I researched the methods and styles. Had it done by a surgeon and am now very happy with the result. No pain during or after and only slight lose of sensitivity. Glad I had it done.
I’m 38 and my life adventure is a bit different than yours but I was feeling the same way about 3-4 months ago.
Divorced now and in a much more sexually actively relationship.
Inflammation and tears were happening with my new Gf so I saw a urologist. Also my frenulum was tight and angled over the glans (needed to be warmed up before sex always). He pointed out that it could potentially be from mild yeast infections even though I'm very clean (ocd about it). I suffered from Balantis when I was younger so it made perfect sense.
The recommendation was made to get circumcised. Im now 6 weeks post operation and have lost 0 normal feeling, if anything I’m more sensitive. I look forward to loosing a bit… lol.
The procedure (for me) was nearly painless but the first 3 weeks post op was not fun, boarder-line absolutely terrible. Night erections hurt, overly sensitive just walking, no sex or masterbation (obviously), and finding the right underwear was a task.
All and all, I’m happy I had it done.
One note in reading comments here… none of these people are doctors. Take the opinions with a grain of salt. Age has nothing to do with it. Diabetes can cause issues. Skin conditions can cause issues. Also it’s your choice. See a urologist first and see if the choice is something that is right for you.
10 to 20 years in your opinion will change
In your position, I'd see a GP, and ask about whether a referral to a urologist might be recommended. They might want some blood tests to check for diabetes btw. In the meantime, lube is your friend, washing (with water, no soap) daily, and taking a leak and washing after masturbation or sex will probably help, and you could also try Canesten cream or Daktarin cream. Loose fitting cotton underwear may help, and some sites recommend washing underwear with non-biological washing powder or liquid.
Circumcision isn't a cure-all btw, and for everyone who's really happy the results and wishes they'd had it done sooner, there's someone else who wishes they hadn't done it at all.
I'm going to try posting some links in a reply to this comment, though the reply may not be immediately visible.
If it's balanitis, then these links may help, though the third article is written for doctors:
I had the similar problem. With a tight foreskin it was difficult to retract and keep the smegma out. I finally got up enough nerve to see a doctor about having my foreskin circumcised. He recommended a dilation procedure to loosen the tight skin. After numbing my penis and foreskin, the doctor inserted a closed hemostat into the tip. He then opened the hemostat wide. He repeated the procedure several times until he could readily retract the foreskin behind the glans. I was somewhat bleeding. The doctor sent me home with the instructions to pull back my foreskin behind my glans twice daily. Somewhat painful at first but it worked for me.
Did you know that they make rings That come with the tool and you use the tool to make it wide and use the right ring to stretch it until it eventually pulls back and using a steroid cream to soften up the skin to be able to stretch the forskyn then you didn’t have to get circumcised and if you do get circumcised do it the way they did in the Bible not the way they have now it’s all the problems
Oh Yes! With out any shadow of doubts go for it you won't regret in life at all. Same condition here circumcised at the age of 30 now 54 and the sex life is going as the same ratio of early 30s. All credit goes to the Dr who circumcised me 24 yrs ago. The cosmetic looks and longevity power during sex are another + points.best wishes.
If you have to ask, my first thought is no. But if you are having tears then it is something you should consider. It is possible that circumcision will not solve your problem and there is another way.
Go see your Doc' and discuss options, do not have surgery on the basis of what someone has replied to your query.
Hi well first thing is to see your doctor and have things checked out, it could be a fungal infection or yeast. The longer you wait the worse it will get so the sooner you get an appointment the better some cream might help. If it doesn't improve then consider having a circumcision as it more than likely won't get better and it will affect you sex life in the long term.
Definitely get circumcised, but make sure you research a good circumciser.
you have a skin condition causing that. Try twice daily application of Clotrimazole.
You really have just three choices: 1) Do nothing and put up with repeated tears, inflammation and itchyness. 2) Apply creams on a regular basis for the rest of your life and hope that the problem will go away. 3) Get circumcised and permanently remove the problem foreskin and the hiding place for infections, etc that it provides.
Remember that sensitivity does not equal pleasure, especially when tears, etc are reducing the pleasure for both of you anyway. A slight reduction in sensitivity (which often doesn't happen anyway) in exchange for problem free sex (including masturbation) is a very small price to pay.
The longer you wait, the problem can only get worse. Talk to your doctor or a specialist circumcision clinic as soon as possible and enjoy your sex life.
I will be going to a doc but can only do it from end of July as i have a race coming up and cant afford not to be ready or fit enough to do it.
It is better you use lubrication before intercourse. There is no need of circumcision surgery. I have done the surgery for the same condition I had and now I regret it.
Tried lubrication. Still happens. And i dont like being forced to be in one position, if you have followed my previous posts i have had issues and it i lose focus and get afraid of getting tears then im going to go back into my old problems again.
I’d seek a Drs advice.
Is your lovemaking vigorous? Could that be a cause?
Same story as Sojoguy (see above) although I am now older. Circumcised for balanitis ( Dr described as 'BXO' ) age 30 and now in my 60's and have had no problems since. A positive result for me.
Yeah im going to consult with a doc for the best way forward.
Online site Doctors Opposing Circumcision has information and free consultation.
Yeah I'm real and if you feel that way then don't go on the site. Not all of us know everything or spends hours online reading everything that has been discussed before or whatever the hell it is that's upsetting you. So pass off
If it is purely a tight foreskin try the following - just try to stretch it open so it's stops tearing. I had pinhole phimosis and tried to stretch it with everything, then realised people stretch their earlobes to ludicrous sized openings starting with a hole they actually have to make themselves, whereas we have a completely natural opening which simply needs stretching. I discovered the slippiest material is PTFE (although Delrin may be similar) and originally found one supplier Stonewolf Adornments and more recently Southshore Adornments, I ordered Labrets/Philtrums (sets off these from small to large are much cheaper) you can personalise their shape exactly as you wish (I ask them to make the top rim wider so it's easier to insert). I obviously don't mention what I am using it for, they must assume I have a piercing😊. I gently insert with a bit of KY Jelly and just stick a bit of Sellotape over the top to keep it in, though medical tape is probably better. Do not move up a size until it goes in and out really easily. Not medical advice obviously, just what worked well for me, good luck!
No worries Chet, hope it is all went well!
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