Not sure its worth going on anymore

[Rdyowasnotup]

I like many others had my foreskin stolen when i was a baby. I became sexually active at 16. By age 18 i felt like i was slowly losing the feeling in my penis. By age 20 i knew for sure this was a thing. So i started asking doctors. I got the typical it's all in your head talk. By age 25 i had difficulties with climax. And by age 35 climax became impossible, shortly after erectile dysfunction set in. I test normal for everything related to ed. No low t, no diabetes, no bloodflow problems. Everything has been negative. Useing viagra does not work as i can get erections on my own i Just cant feel stimulation to sustain it. The same happens with viagra. Covering my glans with makeshift foreskin returns everything to normal function in time, but just a couple days uncovered everything goes back to non functional. I should not have to do this doctors played god with my penis and ruined it. There is nothing i can do no treatment, no lawsuit, no justice for a gross injustice. Ive suffered for decades in silence and im about done. Life isn't worth living this way. Countless ruined relationships sexual restlessness all my life never knowing satisfaction.

[LUFC88]

Hi,

Sounds like you’re going through and have gone through a really negative experience physically. The brain is a powerful tool and that negative experience physically was probably onset by a mass of negative thoughts. ‘Nothing will work’, ‘it’s always going to be this way because I’m physically like this’. When you start having that mindset, nothing is going to get better, only worse. You need to bring yourself in to a more positive frame of mind. I suggest seeking psychological help as this issue sound more mental than physical. You don’t have erection problems, you can keep it up long enough to be stimulated but that signal in your brain is not receiving that it’s pleasurable or a time to release.

The brain is a powerful tool which you need to use to your continual advantage. The blame game is not going to aid you, it’s only going to keep on with those negative thoughts in your mind. You now need to take responsibility for this issue 100%, only you can fix this issue now. All pleasure is signals from your brain, all pain is signals from your brain. It’s all in your brain. The brain is currently clouded by a fog of negativity.

[Rdyowasnotup in reply to LUFC88]

The thing is is that i suffered with all these problems without knowing anything about circumcision. After 20 years of sexual dysfunction and 5 years of ed problems, i discovered that all these problems were completely reversed by blocking my glans from the everyday stimulation of undergarments. If i stay exposed it reverts back to dysfunctional. So over the course of decades my brain learned to block out the constant stimulation from everyday wear and tear, which also shut off the ability to feel anything in my penis at all.

[LUFC88 in reply to Rdyowasnotup]

There you go, you’ve just said yourself that your brain learned to block out. You just need to adapt the brains functionality. I know your doctor said, ‘it’s all in your head’ and by the sounds of your original post you dismissed this suggestion and haven’t gone down the path of trying to adapt your mind.

Your brain was saying, ‘this constant stimulation by exposure is causing me erection problems’. You’re then exposed and have erection problems.

Your brain is saying, ‘if I keep myself from being exposed, I don’t have erection problems’. You then don’t have erection problems.

Your brain is saying, ‘if I’m exposed I can’t be stimulated enough’. You then can’t ejaculate.

[Rdyowasnotup in reply to LUFC88]

I have tried therapy, the only way anything works is to stop the physical stimulation. That is nearly impossible being circumcised.

[LUFC88 in reply to Rdyowasnotup]

If you stop the physical stimulation to your glands, can you then ejaculate and feel stimulation?

[Rdyowasnotup in reply to LUFC88]

Yes it takes time but it slowly comes back. It starts as extreme pain, it feels like the end of my penis is being burned by a lighter flame while a toothpick is being shoved up my urethra. This comes and goes in waves. Then a little hint of nerve stimulation. Slowly the pain fades and sexual function comes back.

[LUFC88 in reply to Rdyowasnotup]

see the private message I have sent you

[CuriousQ in reply to Rdyowasnotup]

You can buy something called manhood or something like that. It is like a cap you put on your head of the penis to keep it from rubbing against clothes. And yes, circumcision on children is cruel, and even in the US it will be one of those things people will think was crazy. For sure.

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Have you consulted an urologist about your issue or tried foreskin restauration techniques? This might give you some options: healthline.com/health/mens-...

[jimfromcalif]

Foreskin restoration can cure you physically. Mental restoration might be helped along by aligning with an intactivist group. Help to prevent the insane practice of infant circumcision from continuing.

[richlandfarmboy in reply to jimfromcalif]

Finally someone that's gets it. I too was circumcised at birth and eventually ended up the same way. After research, I found my circumcision was the culprit and stared to regrow my foreskin ASAP. This has virtually reversed the ED and sex is better than I could have ever imagined. The brain isn't everything, and it take the sensitivity of the Penis too for a good sex life. Don't believe all these guys who say you have to accept things as they are. You don't have to and you can change it. I do agree that as long as you have had to dealt with this, a phycologist would be a good idea. For info on regrowing your foreskin go to NORM.org. Good luck to you.

[jimfromcalif in reply to richlandfarmboy]

You're among millions. Don't give up. The rates at which this is done to babies are dropping like rocks. Seventeen states have dropped Medicaid coverage for it as well as a few insurance companies. Overall, the rate is approaching 50%, down from a one-time high of 90%. The western states rate is about 1/3, so young men born there are twice as likely to be intact as cut. Education is key. Organizations such as nocirc, norm, noharmm, rights of the child and others are making a difference.

[Rdyowasnotup in reply to jimfromcalif]

I don't feel i will ever be able to fully recover mentally. Going through restoration process, and also trying to just maintain sensitivity. The things i have to do make me feel less of a human. Like im something broken, perverted, deviant, having to do wierd thing with my penis others would not understand.

I went my entire life knowing something was wrong. Never not once did i suspect it was because i was circumcised. I have no memory of it, so i have no memory of the feeling or sensations of the actual surgery.

I actually embarrassingly didn't know i was circumcised until i was around 25. When i was about to sleep with a girl and she says "oh your cut". I reply "where i don't see blood". She said "no your cock silly your circumcised". I googled it later and found out what it was.

I had problems down there long before i even figured out i was circumcised. It wouldn't be untill i was 39 until i figured out i could reverse the problems.

I threw away my one true love. When i was 22. After seeing a doctor about my fading sensitivity. Basically i was told it was all in my head. Maybe im not with the right partner. So i dumped my gf and started sleeping with a lot of women seeing if any could make me "feel". Needless to say nothing helped. I regret these decisions to this day.

[jimfromcalif in reply to Rdyowasnotup]

As I said, foreskin restoration will return most of your sensitivity.

[uncutforesk]

Thank you for your post.

[richlandfarmboy]

Please consider regrowing your foreskin, I was sixty when I started to regrow mine and it has made a world of difference how I feel about myself. This could be the beginning to your healing process. At 39 you have a lot of years ahead of you that can be much better than what you have today.

[Rdyowasnotup]

The op, my husband has taken his life over these demons. He was in a bad emotional state for a long time over these issues. I tried to help but i could never fully understand what he was going though.

I guess his demons are at peace now as sad as it is.

If anyone gets to this post with similar issues, please talk to someone. It is not worth your life.