Hi . I’ve joined as I believe there is undiagnosed asd in my mother (now in her 80s) and brother (a year younger than me). I had an assessment done on myself and came out as having some autistic traits but not qualifying for a diagnosis of asd. Both my brother and I are single and have got through life ok, though I’ve had counselling on and off for 30 years due to various problems and mental health issues. I still have trouble communicating with mum and brother but understand them better as a result of getting older and having read a lot about asd. Am learning to have better boundaries with them which seems to help. Anyway, that’s me.
Now in my 50s, with undiagnosed asd I believe in my... - Mencap
Now in my 50s, with undiagnosed asd I believe in my family of origin
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It is difficult to separate it all out - My father is clearly ASD - high functioning - largely seen by the world as 'eccentric' it was only when my son was being diagnosed that it became clear this all applied to my father and brother. Then I wonder if I am too - I definitely have trouble communicating with people - (and ASD tends to present differently in women) but how much of that was growing up in a household where this was normal, and how much is a trait I was born with? Not sure I will ever get answers to that - but knowing does make me accept and understand.
Hello green_and_purple
Welcome, and thanks for introducing yourself.
It must be a bit frustrating not having a clear diagnosis. You sound to be doing all the right things to get help - many people find counselling very helpful.
Have you been in touch with the National Autistic Society (NAS) at all? Here is their website link - autism.org.uk
You mention a lot of things in your post, and NAS has information about many of them on their website:
> What is Autism? - autism.org.uk/advice-and-gu...
> Diagnosis for adults - autism.org.uk/advice-and-gu...
> Socialising and relationships - autism.org.uk/advice-and-gu...
> Communication - autism.org.uk/advice-and-gu...
> Mental health - autism.org.uk/advice-and-gu...
They even have their own online community - autism.org.uk/what-we-do/co...
I hope this helps a little.
Best wishes
Sarah