My husband thinks I’m an hypochondriac ! I have recently broke my fibula. I have lupus SLE and fibromyalgia and APS. My pain in my leg is still really painful. I’m taking 2 x paracetamol, pregablin and tramadol, none of which gave me much relief.
Do you think I am a hypochondriac ?
No. You've broken a long bone. They are the strongest in the body so to fracture a long bone you have to really injure yourself. The femur is the worst followed by tib and fib.
If you can hobble on your crutches and go and get a sledgehammer, perhaps hit him over his fibula causing a fracture and then ask him if he still thinks you are being a hypochondriac.
Or perhaps that is why I am single.
You are not a hypochondriac. You are in pain. I think you deserve a medal because I wouldn't put up with somone calling me that.
You need kindness, support and a bit of understanding. Us chronically unwell lot have enough to put up with each day without extra problems.
Sledgehammer.x
Well said HT I'm with you on the sledgehammer front 👍. I still live in hope someone will invent an illness simulator .x
I was just about to type your husband is a ***** hit him with something hard and watch him cry and you did it for me Happytulip. Great minds think alike 😂 xx
I totally agree!! x
Nope not in the slightest.when i broke my left wrist it took a good 4 months to build up the strength and get rid of the pain ( and it was a good break ) you've got to build up the muscles and bone again.i think those of us with chronic illness who are dealing with fatigue and pain etc to start with take longer to heal.everyday things take it out of us without adding in an injury.i can fall and i know how a simple fall can knock me for 6.I would give him the spoon theory to read and tell him to watch the miranda hart video on chronic illness.maybe then he might acquire some empathy
Hcps can be very good at making us feel like hypochondriacs the last thing we need is family and friends making us feel that way too.
Be kind to yourself.sending hugs xx🤗xx
Very good point. An you'll have to learn to weight bear safely again.
Please don't think I am a violent person, because I'm not. But I'm flaring myself at the moment and have very little patience for those who aren't helpful to "us lot." It's the last thing you need at the moment. That and the broccoli smoothie brigade. X
No I dont think that all lol it made me chuckle.i have a neighbour who has never endured anything so hasnt an ounce of empathy....shed be the first in my illness simulator Thankfully the anti vax brigade have gone quiet too. Rest up xxx
You are hilarious. I needed to giggle today and your fierce response made me spit my tea over my iPad. Never change. I so wish I had your fight. Feel better soon lovely xxx
never listen to the husband when it gets to your healthcare
No. Not a hypochondriac.
I tried that with my ex. He wouldn't even bother to look at any of the inflammation put before him about AI disease. That was a waste of his time apparently. That's why I went straight bfor the sledgehammer idea
No, you are not. And apart from telling him your answer, next time he says he has a headache, please tell him the same but first ask 'does it hurt?', he will say yes,
then say:
I think you are hypochondriac! and walk away. If he does not understand this you have a problem with this husband, he sounds selfish and uncaring. Lx
Lupus and many other illnesses cripples us for the rest of our lives .some men are too arrogant and selfish to want to understand
Fair point but very few are
You are a strong, brave woman dealing with rotten pain and a broken bone, certainly not a hypochondriac. I want to send you a message of comfort and support and hope that your fibula heals well and soon. Lupus is a debilitating disease that saps your energy and strength, it must be hard dealing with that and someone who belittles your suffering, perhaps he just doesn’t know how to deal with the whole thing. Keep posting to this group to get some messages of support to give you strength.
Oh lovely I want to give you a gentle Cwtch and bitch slap your husband. What he says is unkind and lacking in compassion. I don’t know your situation or what support you have but you deserve so much better than this. This group is very supportive so come here vent, rant and have a giggle. I really hope that your husband can get some enlightenment. Maybe get him a book on Lupus. You have so much to contend with. Please take care xxx
I have one too that is of the same vein, he wouldn’t dare to speak the words but actions speak louder than words. That wheel goes full circle, I make sure it does. Ignorance is bliss so ignore him or anyone who cannot be kind and compassionate.
Take care and best wishes 🙏🤗
Hypo? No way! You sound like you've had an injury, had medicine thrown at you and been left to get on with it. If those pills don't start to help soon seek support from a doctor, and don't let them either leave the room or put the phone down on you until they offer better supportive medicine or reassure you that they have heard your concern, noted it and will get back to you asap with a plan to help or monitor your progress.
My spine fractured in 2019, I was offered medicine that was a waste of space, offered zero support and sent me home to basically deal with it alone. Some imbecile asked me if I was doing my stretching exercises a month later. I look back on that time and now have huge disgust at the lack of care and support too many of us suffer.
As for the husband he sounds as much support as 4" heels. Ignorance is bliss. One day he might need an arm to lean on. He also needs to grow up. Don't let the hurt he's caused you damage you. Stay strong and seek medical support, read up plenty on the subject of your injury and get well. If your you are a hypo then I'm a walking pharmacy with the twelve repeat medications on my prescription!
A big hug from me to you 💕
Thank you for your kind words xx
Hi Rafael
My moto is what goes around comes around .
Hope it’s not a constant thing with him ..
It’s a bit cruel and nasty if it is 😕🦋❤️
UPDATE: was taken in hospital by ambulance (blues and twos). My blood pressure was 71/40. They found that I have pneumonia even though I haven’t had any symptoms. Where to next? Thanks for all your support xx
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