I'm going to try to be really to the point behind this because my intentions are very specific.
Long before I really knew my wife she was diagnosed with Rheumatoid arthritis and did everything she could at managing and battling it with the GP she had, it's only since we got together and recently married that I said something clearly isn't right, everything he's given you over the 8ish years you've had this diagnosis isn't making much of a difference unless he's majorly upping your dosage of steroid injection. After going with and being firm towards the GP asking for alternative treatments, anything else we've not considered and general advice, he choses to stick to his guns but not till after he insulted my wife about the weight she's gained even though it prioritises itself in her knee and she some days has issues walking.
Regardless we took the advice given and tried the best we could with what we had.
However after recently moving to Wiltshire we moved her into a different GP, after seeing a man about advice for the same issue we always go to he turns around and does some blood tests and a physical exam and says there's a possibility it could be lupus. Now my wife isn't the most vocal about her conditions as it is and trying to get any info is like trying to get blood from a stone.
What I really wanted to know as a concerned husband is really this. I personally cannot begin to understand what she goes through day in day out, I don't have this condition and when I try to talk to her about it she gets really defensive or tries to bluff me saying she doesn't want to bore me with the details everyday.
I've already mentioned her knees having issues, her hips play up, she's recently been off work with depression and frankly I feel useless in trying to help
Apart from trying to keep her happy, comfortable and trying my hardest to get any info or see if she's in pain, is there anything I can do make her open up or feel better ?
It might sound ridiculous but any info can really help me out.
Thanks in advance