so sad but very true, hospitals kills more than cure .

[joeyroe]

My Husband has had cancer in his lung for 8 months, he only had the surgery 5 weeks ago and 3 days after the surgery he got an infection in his lung 3 more infections after that which killed him and not the cancer. what a terrible death he had and how heart broken i am as his wife.

[janiceowens1957]

My heart is broken for you. My husband is not doing well either. I can't imagine how you feel but I seemed to be sitting on the edge of my seat waiting for the fall. I have sent a prayer up for you.

[Ncpoet in reply to janiceowens1957]

Janice,

Sounds like you two also need prayers. Sending some up for you.

Judy

[anrean]

Joeyroe, our hearts break for your experience. We need hospitals so that things like surgery can be performed. It is so unfortunate and sad that you experienced the worst result of hospitalization. I am so very sorry for your loss. May God rest your weary heart and somehow give you peace. Remember the good times and all the love you and your husband shared

Lauri-Anne

[Ncpoet]

What a horrible thing to happen! So sorry he went through that and so sorry he passed away. I know you must be in shock to lose him this way. It is hard enough to fight the cancer and to hope the surgery will succeed.

I hope you have someone close by to talk to. I used Hospice to help me when I was grieving over my dad. He was not a Hospice patient but they do help anyone in the community who is grieving. They are a great resource.

You are in my prayers.

Judy

[SusieJo1948]

Joey hi I'm so sorry about your husband. I know there is a lot of truth in what you say about hospitals. Every time I've read your post. I would get so sad because they let his cancer go that long. It should have been treated a lot sooner. That truthful ly made me hurt so much for you. I wish I could push those Dr for letting him go that long with cancer When they should have treated him a lot sooner. It just makes me so angry. I know this is very hard and I'm here for you. If you need me I'm right here any time. Love susie jo1948

[joeyroe]

I wish someone could tell me how to cope with the pain, the tears and not able to sleep even with a sleeping tablet. he should not have died it took him 4 hours to die and i will never forget the sight of him trying to breath. i am staying with my Daughter but god help her trying to help me. thankyou Susie. x

[Gmassa13]

I am so sorry, my deepest sympathy

[ynkefan08753]

I’m so sorry you’re going through this and I can only imagine how hard it is for the spouse/partner who is the caregiver as opposed to the cancer patient. I’m the patient in my case and I watch the worry and concern on my husbands face every time I get a sniffle. I won’t pretend I know how you feel because in truth, I don’t. The only advice I can give you is how I deal with things that seem to hard to overcome on my own...and that’s with my faith and a whole lot of prayer. When I was first diagnosed with lung cancer I was so scared. I assumed I was going to die soon and I was petrified. My sister in law called our pastor and asked him to come to the hospital to see me because she knew how scared I was. To be honest, I didn’t really want to see anyone...especially not someone who was going to tell me “don’t be afraid, God will take care of you”. Well, that’s exactly what Pastor Chris said when he sat down next to my hospital bed and truth be told...I instantly felt better. After a few minutes of praying I wasn’t afraid anymore. I guess it’s because I wasn’t sure what was going to happen to me if I DID die, because no one really knows what dying feels like but once I had a clear idea of what I believed would happen if I died...I wasn’t afraid anymore. I knew I was going to fight for my life but I also knew that if I lost the fight, I’d be going to Heaven and that made me calm and able to focus on the task at hand.

It’s not going to be easy...navigating life without your husband...but with the help of your family and friends and if you have a church supporting you, you will eventually be able to smile again and sleep will follow. I’m certainly not trying to push my beliefs on you. You don’t have to go to church or be an active member of any certain “religion” to have faith and to receive comfort. I’m just sharing what works for me and letting you know that all of us here are praying for you and wishing you peace and solace. Even though it feels hopeless right now please know that you will be ok and also know that God has your husband wrapped up in his arms and that he’s ok too.

Much love and peace to you and tour family. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[joeyroe]

thank you for your kind words but i am worn out praying so just cant pray any more, i am just going around in a haze not knowing what to do or say. i know it's only a week to day since he died and i am lost. i feel God wanted him but i need him more. staying with my daughter and She is also lost and does not know how to help me.

God Bless you.

Joeyroe (the name of my little dog)

Margaret x

[Ncpoet]

There is no right or wrong way to grieve. You pain is overwhelming right now. It doesn’t completely go away, but it eases up enough that we can continue on. It is good you are with your daughter. You can help each other. Right now you need the rest. You are physically exhausted. Our emotions can take a toll on the body. Continue to talk to your doctor. Don’t worry if you can’t pray right now. We will pray for you. Please continue to let us know how you are doing.

Judy

[joeyroe]

THANK YOU ALL FOR YOUR KIND WORDS MY EMOTIONS ARE ALL OVER THE PLACE, IF I AM OUT WITH SOMEONE HAVING A COFFEE I JUST BURST INTO TEARS. PAUL'S ASHES ARE COMING TO MORROW SO ANOTHER DAY OF SORROW AS I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO WITH THEM. MY DAUGHTERS AND MY SON ARE SO KIND AND LOVING I WOULD BE VERY LOST WITHOUT THEM. BLSS YOU ALL FOR YOUR SUPPORT. X

JOEYROE........MARGARET.