Update

[Heartbr0ken]

My partner still remains in ICU. He is still under sedation. He had an X-ray today and his chest is clear of any infection. However, his parents were told that his liver (it is decompensated) has taken a beating and his chances of survival are slim. I’ve actually resigned myself that he won’t be coming home, and attempting to try and build a life Slowly for me and my son without him. As much as I love my partner and my son adores him I cannot think that he will come home and then not, I know it’s a terrible thing but I’ve been through 9 weeks of torture not knowing what to do and hoping and praying, I’m absolutely exhausted. I will continue to pray, go and see him, tell him to keep fighting but I think I’m fighting a losing battle 😢😢😢

[Sepsur]

Many of us have been given very little chance of survival & yet we survived against all odds. I can only speak for myself, there is nothing unique about me except I have defied the odds - “slim” chances are still some. I hope you get more promising news tomorrow.

[BabyRhino]

I really feel for you and can understand where you're coming from Heartbr0ken. I remember how I had to prepare in my mind how I would cope if the worst did happen. It just helped me to get through the days to know that I had that in place. I could then go and be present with him. We have been fortunate that he did come home and is now doing well, but I will never forget having to prepare for if it had been otherwise. It did not mean I was giving up. On the contrary, it gave me the strength to carry on.

[Copse77]

We were in a very similar situation. The children were young. It was a tortuous rollercoaster and exhausting so I do empathise with you. It is hard but remain hopeful is the best advice we were given. I sent you some private messages of our family story which was written anonymously with the aim to provide hope to other families going through this. if you look at the chat function, the third bubble at the top of the page you will see the messages if you click on the bubble. Stay strong.

[Heartbr0ken in reply to Copse77]

Hi there, no messages received at the moment x

[Copse77 in reply to Heartbr0ken]

Sorry it is there now.

[Heartbr0ken in reply to Copse77]

Thank you. It’s a lovely positive story. I just feel totally exhausted from the up and downs and this rollercoaster. I am praying and continue to see him. I’m also just trying to stop myself from a big fall xx

[RiaJam]

Never give up hope. My brother was in the same situation as your partner. His kidneys are still not working 100% and he has dialysis x3 weekly but after 5 months in both ICU and on a rental unit, he has now moved to a rehab centre. Where he is making slow and steady progress. Where there is life, there is hope. He’s still with you. Don’t give up.

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[brenharrington1]

My wife and kids were in the very same position as you are. They took every phone call from the hospital as the last but they never gave up hope on me even when the coroner was called. Stay strong and hopefully with your support your partner still has a fighting chance. All the very best