My 78 yr old mum has been in ICU for 18 days after a bowel rupture . Surgery went very well but she has COPD and docs have said she cannot cope without ventilator. She seemed to rally last week and had a few hours a day off ventilator. She now has a chest infection which they will try to traet for a further 5 days with new antibiotics.If no improvement they have told us they will discuss removing ventilation and allow her do die. Yesterday she was awake , aware, smiling, asking questions about hope etc and covering my son in kisses. I know she is very week and fed up but I feel she has been given a death sentence qnd there is nothing I can do to stop it.